Post # 1

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Newbee
For better or worse (in this case worse) I asked my bridesmaids what style of dress they prefer. One want strapless and short, another wants straps and long, a third wants tea length and strapless…the other three are a mix of the first ones. The other problem is there are two girls who really want strapless and I don’t feel they should wear strapless. They are very blesssed in the chest and I don’t want everyone’s eyes on them. I don’t mind if their necklines are different, however I do want them all the same length (either tea or floor I’m leaving that up to majority). I’m getting married Sept 20, 2014.
Does anyone know of a place that sells dresses that are the same dress with different necklines? I’ve seen pictures online but can’t track any down. Any help would be appreciated.
Post # 3

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Bumble bee
@hopefull2014: Lots of places sell a coordinated line of dresses in the same colours and fabrics so that women can choose an individual style but still be “matched”. I would suggest one length (knee or full) and then let them choose from there.
As for lines, After Six/Dessy comes to mind.
Also….you could go for one dress that’s convertible, like the Two Birds dresses (although there’s LOTS of cheaper versions out there of the same style).
Post # 4

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Bumble bee
Search etsy for “infinity dress.”
Post # 5

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Buzzing bee
The infinity dress is a good option. Or you can do mis-matched in the same fabric/color/length. If you want the dresses to all match then I’d do a ranking system. Find 5 or 6 dresses you love and let the girls rank them from highest to lowest. Throw out any dresses that a girl hated. Pick the dress with the highest votes. I did a point system. If you do 5 dresses then the point breakdown would be: 4 points, 3 points, 2 points, 1 point, 0. If a dress got a 0 then it was thrown out. I picked the highest dress that no one put down 0.
Post # 6

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Bumble bee
@hopefull2014: Pick a color, material and length of a brand of dress, like After Six, Dressy, David’s and let them pick different styles. Or pick a number of styles and tell them to pick from those.
Post # 7

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Blushing bee
@hopefull2014: Try WToo (by Watters)… You can select a fabric type and color and then play with the cut of the dress.
Ultimately, it’s YOUR day and YOUR vision. Now, I’m not a fussy bride (I had to skype in when my bridesmaids when shopping for their dresses because I had just moved from MA to FL and couldn’t be there in person….) and I basically let them pick whatever they wanted, but not everyone is like that. If it doesn’t fit your vision, have a respectful discussion with your bridesmaids and tell them that you want to a achieve a certain look. They should be supportive and understanding if you are easy-breezy and explain how you’re feeling in the right way.
Post # 8

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Sugar Beekeeper
I told my girls “Pool” and floor-length, and they picked whatever at DB!
Post # 9

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Sugar bee
@hopefull2014: I haven’t used this site but the dresses look cute and they have multiple necklines for the same fabric and color. http://littleborroweddress.com/ I kind of want to buy some of their dresses for myself…
Post # 10

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Buzzing Beekeeper
Would you consider just telling them a color and length and letting them get their own? That’s what I did and it worked out great! Or I like the other bee’s suggestion of picking a color and fabric in a certain store/designer and then they could get different cuts in the same length.
Post # 11

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Bumble bee
I’m having my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses made at Fabulous U. All out of the same fabric and color, all different styles.
Post # 12

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Helper bee
@hopefull2014: First off, yay for being my date twin! My wedding party is very spread out so I’m letting each female attendant pick their own style so long as it is a long gray dress in a non-shiny fabric (like chiffon). I’m going to recommend David’s Bridal, but they can get the dresses anywhere.
What I do plan on doing to address the modesty issue and keep everyone matching is provide a red pashmina to wear over their shoulders for the ceremony.
Post # 13

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Bee Keeper
I second the infinity dress option. And, they’ll be able to wear them again, for real. 🙂
Post # 14

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Bumble bee
Weddingtonway.com
alfred sung has many many of the same color and fabric dresses with about 20 various styles!
Post # 15

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Sugar bee
@hopefull2014: I let my girls all pick their own dresses in plain black – any style they wanted as long as it didn’t have the same neckline as my dress. It looked really good and none of the dress were even close to being the same .
Post # 16

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Bee Keeper
@hopefull2014: I chose the Henkaa dress for my girls which is similar to the infinity dress others have posted. It is one dress that can be worn in many different styles. Each one of my girls wore a different style in the way they liked it and only my Maid/Matron of Honor wore a strapless style so she stood out from the others. Below is a picture showing some of the different styles of how they were tied