(Closed) Bridesmaids and Bridal Shower Questions

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

in response to Number 2: i think it is perfectly acceptable to have input in your shower guest list, and it is important you convey if there are people who you don’t want there.  i would just be cognizant of the number of people you tell her must be there (ie dont hand her a list of 100 people)

Post # 4
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

1. you can set whatever requirements you want! it’s your wedding.

2. only invite people to the shower who are invited to the wedding, and only family and bridesmaids should be invited to more than one shower. if you want to do something else, you could do a brunch or a spa day before the wedding.

3. if you are friends with them and would want them at your wedding, invite them. i’ve had a surprising number of people opt to travel for my wedding, so you never know!

Post # 5
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Just my 2 cents:

Question 1: I have picked the color, length & fabric (or at least similar fabrics) for my girls dresses! They seem totally fine with it!

Question 3: I personally, would invite them. If they come, you’ll be so excited to see them, and if they can’t, they will 100% appreciate that you thought of them.

Post # 6
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

#1 – Totally fine to put boundaries on the dress choice.  It’s also totally fine if you just choose the dress.  While you can consider her request (and may want to depending on what’s behind it and how comfortable you want her to be), it is ultimately your choice.  FWIW, I like the different length/same color/different dress bridesmaid idea, but I think this is too varied for many others.

#2 – You can’t invite ppl to a shower who aren’t invited to the wedding.  Not everyone you know needs to be included in a shower, so if you’re already having one where you live, I’m not seeing why you would need to do one in your hometown.  But, if your Maid/Matron of Honor wants to do something for you, could it just be small?  Showers don’t have to be 20 people.  One of my friends was expecting and 4 of us took her to lunch and brought gifts bc we weren’t included in the shower in her hometown.  If you do something wedding weekend, I would opt for brunch so ppl aren’t double invited to showers.  And, at that point, it’s kind of moot anyway because then people would have to shop for two separate gifts for you in the same weekend which may be weird.

#3 – Again, no shower invite if no wedding invite.  I would not hesitate to invite people you want at your wedding just bc it’s far – after all, people do destination weddings all the time.

Hope This Helps

Post # 7
693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hello and Welcome to The Hive! ๐Ÿ™‚

(1) I am doing just that – I picked a color, set dress “parameters” and let each girl get their own.  Your bridesmaid may have not know that knee-length is what you want initially.  I am sure once you explain this is how it is, she will go with the flow.

(2) I wouldn’t invite people to the shower that are not invited to the wedding, especially if the shower and wedding are in the same town.

(3) Sure, invite your friends – some might surprise you and show up.  My BFF got married in another state and I would say 20 of her out of town friends made a road trip out of it  together – they had a great time!


Enjoy planning your wedding!!!!!

Post # 8
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

hey don’t wanna be repetitive so i second kitzy!

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