(Closed) Bridesmaids and Shower?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

If it’s stressing you way out, you don’t have to have one. Maybe mention it to your Maid/Matron of Honor that you’re kind of dissapointed that you probably aren’t getting one and try to nudge her along toward planning it or if you don’t care about tradition, maybe explain the situation to your mom (if you haven’t already) and see if somebody in your family would be interested in hosting it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Bridesmaids don’t always plan to shower. If you’re bummed about not getting one, then you can always tell your mom or Future Mother-In-Law if they want to plan it they can. If you don’t care too much then you can decide not to have one. It’s up to you, but your bridesmaids def. don’t have to be the ones to plan it.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

My mom is hosting it and she’s enlisted the help of my Maid/Matron of Honor.  The other bridesmaids know (I know this much) but don’t know how much of the planning they’re doing. 🙂

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My mom’s friends are putting mine on.. lol.  2 of my BMs will be there, my Maid/Matron of Honor is from out of town, so she won’t be, but they’re not involved in any of the planning or anything else.

So the BMs/MOH doesn’t have to be the ones to put it on.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Mine turned into kind of a big joined effort lol My Maid/Matron of Honor was for sure planning it but when she asked for the help of my BMs most of them were freaking about spending money on it. So in the end they’re contributing what they want to I guess and then my mom pitched in a lot for it. It is a 50 person shower though, so I expected my mom to have to help out.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I actually had three showers:

1st one was a family shower that my aunt put together for me

2nd one was a work shower that my co-workers gave me

3rd one was a friends shower that my MOH’s put together for me.

It doesn’t always have to be your BM’s family can definately give you one!!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You’re maid of honor traditionally plans your baby shower along with your bridesmaids. But anybody can host it really. As for me my mother and maid of honor will plan it together. I will have some input and I don’t want it to be a surprise so I will pick the date and all. I love bridal showers they are so much fun! Congrats! Oh and we’re month twins! If you have a shower what date will you have it on? I was thinking for me April or May.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Bridal party usually throws the shower, since tradition says the family should not.  (It looks gift grabby.)  However, plenty of moms plan showers, either outright, or behind the scenes.  These days it is often more practical for family to plan it, because Bms and friends are all over the country, or still working on their master’s and busy and poor.

I would agree about going the mom route.  If your Bms weren’t aware it’s kind of their responsibility to throw the shower, telling them now, after they’ve accepted the role, might not go over well.  They might not have been budgeting for something like that.  But perhaps your mom could get them offer up some elbow grease.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Tradition was the Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs, but anymore anyone can host it.  As more couples tend to pay for their own weddings, a lot of moms will do the shower now.  My BMs are all broke so they couldn’t afford to host one, and even though we’re paying for the wedding, my mom is too “traditional” to host, so I wasn’t going to have one…until FI’s aunt graciously afford to throw a shower=)  I’ve only met her once, but I’m SO excitied and touched by the gesture!!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I haven’t exactly chosen a date, like you said it’s hard, but I will set a date as soon as I can. Maybe in April because May is really busy with my little sisters birthday on the 3rd and my Maid/Matron of Honor bday on the 15th. So I will most likely do it in April I gotta let my mother and Maid/Matron of Honor know. We’ll see.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

traditionally, its hosted by the Maid/Matron of Honor and the BM’s, but i’ve heard of family members hosting the showers as well. 

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