- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I know how these types of posts tend to be received here. I know these women aren’t my ‘slaves’ and all they need to do to complete their ‘jobs’ is show up on the day in their clothes and walk down the aisle on cue… but I feel like my situation has become special.
I have two bridesmaids and two MoHs. One of my bridesmaids is great! She is doing my makeup on the day because I’m bad at it, she paid for her own dress, has shown up to fittings, trials, meetings, etc. on time and with enthusiasm.
On the flipside, all three of the others have been totally, completely impossible to contact. By this, I mean I haven’t heard from one of them since we went to try on our dresses… in November.
One of my MoHs was really enthusiastic in the beginning but has become increasingly hard to contact in recent weeks. I haven’t seen either of the MoHs in almost two months. One of them is the sister of the bridesmaid I haven’t seen since last year, so I have been trying to use her to get ahold of her sister (arranging times for us to all hang out together, etc.) but something always comes up on their end.
The three of them still owe me for their dresses and I think this might be why they are avoiding me, even though I’ve told them I’ll eat the cost in lieu of a bridal gift, and that if they really can’t afford it they can just pay me what they can, and that any contribution at all is a help.
With little more than 2 months to my wedding, I’m getting desperate. I’m trying to figure out if they need help getting appropriate shoes, want to set up hair trials with my stylist, and have sent them several messages about this, and still, radio silence from everyone except for the one girl.
I don’t know what to do… has anyone else had their bridesmaids do this to them? How did you resolve it? I need some serious advice, I’m trying to do everything for these girls and they won’t even enable me to do that. I know they’re less inclined to be involved because it’s my wedding, not theirs, but it’s not like I’m asking them to do work for me or spend money on my behalf. I just need answers. What would you do? 🙁