- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Sorry for the vent but uuuuuuuuuugghhhhh!!!
So I originally had 3 bridesmaids and 1 Maid/Matron of Honor. Bear with me I’ve already posted about the first part. My Maid of Honor and one of the bridesmaids were being really flighty in the last few months.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is from like 8 states away (We will call her Nan), one bridesmaid is 2 states away (We will call her Jan) the other from the same state but she’s my cousin(calling her Gab) and my fourth bridesmaid is a close friend from here in town(and call her Tam).
So Nan and Jan were not writing me back with their measurements I’ve been asking them for since the first of December. So two weeks ago I sent them a message saying “I need your measurements by Feb 1st at the latest so we can purchase them. If you can’t make it I will understand just please let me know”
Nan writes back and says she can’t make it. So I’m down a Maid/Matron of Honor. Jan still hasn’t written back at all. I tried calling and texting and am getting nothing. So looks like I’m down a bridesmaid too.
I moved Tam up to Maid/Matron of Honor and she was happy and I’m happy because she’s been the one helping all along anyways. A friend of mine local asked and offered to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man (We will call her Ban) so now I have MOH-Tam, BM-Gab, and BM-Ban.
So BM-Jan still hasn’t written back which means she wont be a bridesmaid I guess. My fiance wants me to ask his brothers girlfriend (we will call her Kam) to be one to kind of bond with her. So I’ll be asking her. If she says yes I will have MOH-Tam, BM-Gab, BM-Ban AND BM-Kam.
Now BM-Gab is my cousin. The only original person besides BM-Tam(Now MOH) Iknew I could count on to be there. So she tells me last night that she may not be able to go because her parents may not be going!
So close to the wedding and this is all being done! What in the world?!?!?! I don’t know what to do here. They are dropping out left and right and it’s so frustrating.
I started out last year in March 2012 with MOH-Nan, BM-Jan, BM-Gab and BM-Tam that were all assuring me they would be there. Now of the original 4 all I know for sure is BM-Tam (who is now MOH)
I told me fiance if another one drops out whatever. I’m not going to keep trying to figure it out.
I’m sorry this is so confusing. It’s just such a hassle. What’s worse is back in July I made a photo guest book which included a page of my bridal party their names and roles. Before printing this I talked to EACH girl to be sure they would be there and they all guaranteed me they would be. Well now the page is useless and I have to get another guest book.
Gaaaaah it’s so frustrating.
Sorry to vent but I am just really dumbfounded. I don’t get it. Am I like bad luck bride or something?
And to be honest I’m kind of upset. It seems like these girls may not be as good of friends as I thought. We’ve always been really close and for them to just spring on me last minute that they wont be doing it when they guaranteed me this whole time that they would, really upsets me.
And my Maid/Matron of Honor lied when she told me why she wouldn’t be making it. So I’m kind of hurt with the fact that these girls that are supposed to be really close to me just don’t seem to care.
My original Maid/Matron of Honor is trying to keep talking and posting on my facebook all these things like cute pictures and “Look this reminded me of you” and all trying I think to get me to not be upset. But I am. I wont be angry forever no, but I need some time because I am upset that it’s been so long and took so long and took so much effort just for her to tell me she wasn’t going to go when she guaranteed me for so long she would.