(Closed) Bridesmaids are dropping out left and right… Venting in progress…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If they drop out do you HAVE to replace them? I’d hold off on anything that requires bridal party on it to be printed/done until much closer to the date.

Post # 4
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Are you having a destination wedding?  Those can be difficult to plan for a set bridal party.  They have to fork out money for travel along with their dress and shoes plus they have to take time off from work or school to travel to attend.

Otherwise, I would be concerned some event occured recently where you might have done or said something to upset them to make them drop out all at the same time.

Post # 5
183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You didn’t invite Gab’s parents? (Presumably your aunt+uncle if I kept up with the situation).  Her reason for possibly not coming is because they can’t make it or they are not invited?

Sorry all this is happening, but sometimes if you have the same problem with many different people, the common denominator in the problem is you…

Post # 6
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014


I didn’t read it as Gab’s parents weren’t invited, just that they possibly weren’t going to make it?


I am sorry you are having these troubles, sounds like your new Maid/Matron of Honor will be good anyway, at least she is close by! Is your old Maid/Matron of Honor not able to make it at all? Maybe she just didn’t want the extra pressure of being MOH?

Post # 8
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@kris325:  I’m sorry you’re going through with this. You are going out of your way to get all of the dresses, lodging, and other fees!! I think you are such a sweet bride. You went above and beyond. It’s just crazy to me that they’d ditch on you so late in the game. They should’ve given you more time in advance. 

Ask your brothers girlfriend and thank Tam, she seems like the only reliable one.


Post # 9
593 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Wow.. I odn’t even know what to say. I would be pissed and probably quit being friends if my bridesmaids did that (unless they had a legitimate reason, of course).

Post # 11
8731 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Sorry but if it was me I would be talking to my friends and not relying on messaging. I would also be wondering what I had done to make so many of my close friends want nothing to do with me or my wedding. Whilst it is hard to face, it is good in life to realise that sometimes we are the problem.

Have you tried talking to them about anything but the wedding? Are you expecting too much from them and they are feeling pressured? Is there something going on in their lives?

Post # 12
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My Bm dropped out after lying to me about her dress and I don’t speak to her anymore we have been friends for 20 years since college.  I didn’t replace I just have one Bm who is fsil she is the moh. Don’t worry about replacing and have who you really want. 

Post # 13
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This sucks! I had some lack of communication with my Maid/Matron of Honor, and it turned out to be a misunderstanding between us. That’s weird the one person keeps writing on your facebook though. Maybe she’s feeling guilty? I might confront her about it, not mean, but: you disappointed me with the lack of communication/ not being in the bridal party. If she responds, fine, but if not, then maybe it’s time to move on from that friendship…

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