- 9 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Ok so where do i begin? This summer I got engaged, and my three best friends were all behind the proposal surprise. Infact they were there and filiming it. It made such a special moment that I will never forget. And as far as what I believe, the entire wedding planning process should be unforgetable and special. The same 3 friends were of course asked to be in my wedding, 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man and a Maid/Matron of Honor.
Since the engagement (August 2) I have not had one wedding activity planned or celebrated. Everyone has told me that they want to plan my engagement party, but I dont even care if they plan it, just as long as there is one. Aside from the lack of parties and celebrating, there has been drama with each girl that is taking my attention away from me and focusing it on them. Now I have no problem what so ever about helping my friends in need, they are my best friends and that is what friends are for. But when is it my turn?
Lets get a little rundown of what Im dealing with:
Bridesmaid or Best Man 1 and Maid/Matron of Honor are together, and have a “daily fight” relationship. They are happy 1 day a week, and it is emotionally draining for them (and me, as I am the one they call). But they wont break up?!!?!
Maid/Matron of Honor is also clinicly depressed, however uses “depression” as an excuse to sleep on life. You may ask how this has anything to do with me.. well Every text message or phone call has to do with her problems and I am the voice of reason.
I just had to leave work to go to her house at 3am to comfort her as her gf (BM1) was out partying.
Bridesmaid or Best Man1 has become an excesive alcoholic within tha past 3 months. And she also likes to (drunkenly) text me and tell me all her issues.
Bridesmaid or Best Man2 is in a relationship that is absoultely wrong for her, (the girl she is dating is openly cheating).
We see eachother everyday (and we work together) and every time we are together there is some type of drama. I am so tired of it. I just want it to be my turn to have people there for me. But in a good way, like there for me as I try on dresses or pick out invites. Anything.
To ice the cake, MOH’s sister got engaged last month. She had her engagement party (thrown by my MOH) last Sunday and right now as Im venting here, they are all dress shoping. (All three are in her wedding.) REALLLLLLY??!
Im just torn up that I have been nothing but a good friend to them, if they needed me I was there. During good times and the times where they needed someone the most. Is it too much to ask for them to put aside their drama and be there for me during this special moment of my life?