Post # 1
So, I got a phone call last night from one of my bridesmaids. She’s emailed the other 2 girls asking for idea’s on the bachelorette & shower. She put some of her own idea’s down and asked what they thought.
This was a few weeks ago, neither of the other 2 girls are getting back to her, so she’s just gone on planning.
They are all from different parts of my life, but they all seem to get along decently.
So what gives? How do I get the other two girls to participate? Should I say anything?
My mom thinks I should stay out of it, because it’s a party for *me*. But, I don’t think my one girlfriend should have to plan it all by herself either. Especially since she isn’t even the MOH but is acting more like one than my actual Maid/Matron of Honor.
Don’t get me wrong, I love them all, they don’t HAVE to plan me anything, but one of them wants to, the other 2 have said they want to, so why won’t they help her out?
Is there anything I can do? Anyone with advice or experience? Thanks.
Post # 3
Maybe something as simple as calling rather than emaiing? You never know what ways work best for people to communicate.
Post # 4
@AmeliaBedelia: True. I guess people are just so used to emailing/facebooking.
I forgot to add. My Maid/Matron of Honor did sort of get back to her. She said that we’d all be getting together at the cabin next month. But the bridesmaid planning it doesn’t wanna wait until the last minute to get details in order and I think she wants there to be an element of surprise for me, so waiting until we’re all at a cabin to talk about it just seems silly.
Post # 5
What has worked best when I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in the past was to assign girls specific duties… like one girl will be in charge of games and prizes, another girl will be in charge of getting the cake, another invitations, another wine or decor… you get the idea. it was a lot easier to take on 1 or 2 things individually, rather than make a bunch of little decisions as a group. I’d e.mail the 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man who is sort of heading the thing, and tell her to start delegating. If no one is stepping up with ideas, it’s probably time for her to start assigning duties. I would try to stay out of it, but be supportive and helpful to the friend who’s actually trying to be a good BM!
Post # 6
@.twist.: If the bridesmaid planning it thinks waiting is silly, she should verbalize that to the other girls instead of assuming they are wrong and going on with the planning. Communication is key – everyone needs to be on the same page and they don’t seem to be.
Post # 7
@simplifiedbride: Thanks! I really agree with you and I think that would work in this case! I’ll see what I can do to make it work without getting too involved.
@crayfish: I agree! I think part of the problem, is that they don’t know each other really well, so none of them want to come across as pushy, or rude, or bosy. Which, I guess isn’t really helping them. It’s nice to see they all wanna get along, on the positive side… LOL.