(Closed) Bridesmaids! Arhg! Need to vent

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it wrong to pick a bm dress and ask the girls to order it without letting them try it on?
    Not wrong : (65 votes)
    68 %
    Wrong : (23 votes)
    24 %
    Very wrong : (8 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My bridesmaids are in 4 different states, so it would be a pain if they all needed to try it on first. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with just picking something, as long as you’re respectful of their level of comfort with general modesty issues (and by that I mean not going shorter or lower cut than they may be comfortable with). I don’t get why everyone thinks they have to like everything they do. 

    Post # 5
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    1438 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m getting married in September also. i have 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man, and they are in different states. I told them a certain color and for it to be knee length and they can pick there own dress. And my Maid/Matron of Honor didnt like the color so now she has a black dress?? I was so pissed off but I made it work.

    So i know how you feel, tell her to get the dress or she is out of the wedding. Most likely she will buy the dress.

    Post # 6
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    2607 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    In the wedding where I was the Bridesmaid or Best Man, the bride picked the dress and we only tried them on to find out what size we needed.  When I was the bride, I picked a dress and told the girls which one I’d picked out.  I did take into consideration modesty, budget, etc. and tried to pick one that would be flattering for the variety of body types that my BMs had, but ultimately, the choice was mine.

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    23602 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I only had 2 of my BMs (my sister and MOH) try on the dress before everyone ordered it since everyone was from different states.  It worked out okay, even if I had a couple girls dog on the dress! 😛

    Post # 9
    Member
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    As long as you picked a dress within their budgets, I think what you did is fine.

    Post # 10
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    1866 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Glow girl:  I am irritated at your bridesmaids, ha!  You did nothing wrong.  How immature of your Bridesmaid or Best Man to post about it on FB!

    Post # 12
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    1438 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    that is very rude, tell them if they dont like it then they are out.

    Post # 13
    Member
    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    You did nothing wrong!  I had my BMs each pick what dress they liked from the designer website and ordered them from a store in Louisiana, so they never had a chance to try them on.  Not one of them cared, and it all worked out fine!

    Post # 14
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    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    In every wedding I’ve been in the bride has picked the dress without much input from others. I did the same. After multiple requests to have all my girls come shopping with me, only 2 were ever able to come. So I made the final call.

    Of course today, 1 month before my wedding, one of them texts me to say she “doesn’t feel confident” in her dress. Seriously?! I’m not quite sure what she expected me to say to that. But I do know that you shouldn’t be saying something like that to a bride when her wedding is in 1 month!

    Post # 15
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    25 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My bridesmaids all live in other states, with the exception of my cousin so she is the only one who tried on the dress I chose. I don’t think it matters if they try it on. I had a Bridesmaid or Best Man who didn’t want a long dress but I ended up choosing a long dress anyway. She’s not even in the bridal party anymore…this is one of the reasons why!

    Post # 16
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    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Sorry to hear about BMs giving you such a hard time picking out dresses. I think that you’ve been very accomodating planning and making trips to shop for the dress. At the end of the day I feel like you can’t please everyone (though on can try), if you’re happy with your selection then hey mission accomplished. When I went shopping, none of my BMs could fit into the store samples and I modeled dresses for them. It was like a Say Yes to the Dress episode. Everything that I liked in the dressing room, they ripped apart on the showroom floor. After that, I ended up researching online and just picked a dress that I liked and thought would be flattering on the girls without trying them on. No worries, they’ll come around.

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