Post # 1
So after months of trying to get the girls together, two trips to bridal stores and several trips to the mall, i was so frustrated that i just decided on a dress and picked it. I sent a nice email to the girls and said please order this dress. The one bm that didnt like anything i picked, got angry at my email and the fact that i just picked a dress. She posted a fb status that she was ‘ so frustrated’ So i called her and said is this about the dress? She said yes. I was like really? Then she complained that she didnt get to try it on first. Everything i asked her to try on she didnt like!!! She is upset that i didnt pick the dress she liked.
At this point, i wish i did not even have any bms. Thanks just need to vent.
But what else could i do? Wedding is in september!!
Post # 3
My bridesmaids are in 4 different states, so it would be a pain if they all needed to try it on first. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with just picking something, as long as you’re respectful of their level of comfort with general modesty issues (and by that I mean not going shorter or lower cut than they may be comfortable with). I don’t get why everyone thinks they have to like everything they do.
Post # 4
Its very modest. Thats what me and my fi wanted. They wanted to wear something that was more cocktail. I thought this was normal tHat the bride pick the dress. Not the bridesmaids. Im not really understanding why i am the bad guy here.. I hate that my bm made me feel so bad. She said she put alot of work into it for nothing. Did she say that bc she didnt get to pick the dress? Wasnt i supposed to expect them to come try on dresses and help me decide what i want for MY wedding? Im so confused. I always try to be a good friend and she made me feel like crap.
Thank you for your comment.
Post # 5
I’m getting married in September also. i have 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man, and they are in different states. I told them a certain color and for it to be knee length and they can pick there own dress. And my Maid/Matron of Honor didnt like the color so now she has a black dress?? I was so pissed off but I made it work.
So i know how you feel, tell her to get the dress or she is out of the wedding. Most likely she will buy the dress.
Post # 6
In the wedding where I was the Bridesmaid or Best Man, the bride picked the dress and we only tried them on to find out what size we needed. When I was the bride, I picked a dress and told the girls which one I’d picked out. I did take into consideration modesty, budget, etc. and tried to pick one that would be flattering for the variety of body types that my BMs had, but ultimately, the choice was mine.
Post # 7
Thanks for your comments ladies! I just found out that this bridesmaid also texted another bm and asked if she wanted to go look at more dresses!! Omg! Wth? I already picked one out!
Post # 8
I only had 2 of my BMs (my sister and MOH) try on the dress before everyone ordered it since everyone was from different states. It worked out okay, even if I had a couple girls dog on the dress! 😛
Post # 9
As long as you picked a dress within their budgets, I think what you did is fine.
Post # 10
@Glow girl: I am irritated at your bridesmaids, ha! You did nothing wrong. How immature of your Bridesmaid or Best Man to post about it on FB!
Post # 11
What kind of girl asks another bridesmaid to go look at more dresses after the bride has already picked one!! Omg!
Post # 12
that is very rude, tell them if they dont like it then they are out.
Post # 13
You did nothing wrong! I had my BMs each pick what dress they liked from the designer website and ordered them from a store in Louisiana, so they never had a chance to try them on. Not one of them cared, and it all worked out fine!
Post # 14
In every wedding I’ve been in the bride has picked the dress without much input from others. I did the same. After multiple requests to have all my girls come shopping with me, only 2 were ever able to come. So I made the final call.
Of course today, 1 month before my wedding, one of them texts me to say she “doesn’t feel confident” in her dress. Seriously?! I’m not quite sure what she expected me to say to that. But I do know that you shouldn’t be saying something like that to a bride when her wedding is in 1 month!
Post # 15
My bridesmaids all live in other states, with the exception of my cousin so she is the only one who tried on the dress I chose. I don’t think it matters if they try it on. I had a Bridesmaid or Best Man who didn’t want a long dress but I ended up choosing a long dress anyway. She’s not even in the bridal party anymore…this is one of the reasons why!
Post # 16
Sorry to hear about BMs giving you such a hard time picking out dresses. I think that you’ve been very accomodating planning and making trips to shop for the dress. At the end of the day I feel like you can’t please everyone (though on can try), if you’re happy with your selection then hey mission accomplished. When I went shopping, none of my BMs could fit into the store samples and I modeled dresses for them. It was like a Say Yes to the Dress episode. Everything that I liked in the dressing room, they ripped apart on the showroom floor. After that, I ended up researching online and just picked a dress that I liked and thought would be flattering on the girls without trying them on. No worries, they’ll come around.