Bridesmaids at showers

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
5168 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would just give one gift. It was probably too difficult to arrange a day when everyone could attend so it was easier to split it over two days.I don’t think having two smaller showers with separate guests is too weird.

Post # 3
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I would give one gift. I’ve seen two showers for brides whos family lives far away from their groom’s family (ie Toronto and Philadelphia), so two showers made a lot of sense. But bridesmaids only went to the shower that was closest to them. 

Post # 4
4815 posts
Honey bee

I have always just given and mostly only attended one of the showers.  

Post # 5
2318 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I agree with PP: just one gift. I had 3 bridal showers (his mother insisted) but just invited BM’ to one each. That way they didn’t get overwhelmed and they didn’t have to worry about a bunch of gifts. 

Post # 6
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Definitely just one gift is expected!

Post # 7
30398 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

One gift is more than enough. Personally, I would tell my bridesmaids not to buy gifts for any shower, or the wedding. They are aready spending enough on my wedding.

Post # 8
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I had three showers- one for each side of the family (both several hours out of town) and one thrown by a family friend in town. My maid of honor attended two of them and gave me two small gifts- if I’d known I would’ve told her not to get me anything because she was already traveling in from out of town! I think one gift is totally sufficient, especially since you won’t even be physically present at the second shower! (Personally I also think if you’re hosting that’s enough of a gift as well.)

Post # 9
13816 posts
Honey Beekeeper

The guest lists for showers are not supposed to overlap for that reason, with the possible exception of very close family or friends who are local to both. Even if you had attended the second shower a second gift is unnecessary and inappropriate. 

In reality, no gift should be expected from the wedding party, and certainly not if you are also involved in hosting it. In practice I often see bridesmaids give a very modest gift or a group present under these circumstances.

Post # 11
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

At my own bridal shower i actually had some people give me two gifts in one sort of like their gift just had multiple items. So if you feel weird about going to both and not having an item for both then you could consider that but generally one gift is enough 🙂 

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