(Closed) Bridesmaids bad attitude

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
277 posts
Helper bee

I would say sit down and talk to your Fiance, see if he has any advice.


The next step would be to arrange a lunch date or coffee date or time to talk with her alone. Make sure she knows that you are happy to have her be a bridesmaid.  If you keep offering her ways out, she might feel you are trying to pressure her to leave. She probably already feels uncomfortable if she doesn’t know A + B as well.


Ask her what she wants to do about the dress. Make sure you know her price range and set a deadline to talk about dresses. If she really doesn’t want to look at dresses, maybe give her an option to not wear a dress?  Set a deadline you need to know by and let her know. Because she is going to be family, I would make sure to remind her as that deadline gets close. If she doesn’t get back to you, then just select the dress A + B like and let her know. If she chooses not to purchase it, then she isn’t a bridesmaid and she took herself out. 



Post # 4
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@mandy86:  I would maybe try and talk with someone in th family about talking to her just to be a lil more positive bc this is ur time and you said she didnt have to if she didnt want to … but if she is gonna she should at least ty be supportive and good energy in the room 


is is possible the mother is making her? 

Post # 6
7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mandy86:   Where is your fiance in all this? She’s his sister, so he should be the one to talk to her. 

He should have a proper heart to heart with her and ask her how she feels about being a bridesmaid. He could always offer an “out” of doing a reading in the ceremony.

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