Post # 1
So one of my bridesmaid’s best friends just got engaged yesterday, cool whatever, happy to have someone join the club… But……
Her wedding is set for a month before mine! (Only 5 months to plan?)
So the question is…..
In the case that her best friend also makes her a bridesmaid (because my bridesmaid had her as a bridesmaid for her wedding and its her best friend), and considering her best friend and I are planning our weddings at the same time, should I be concerned about this?
Now this bridesmaid is NOT a Maid of Honor, but I am looking to her for a lot of help and advice because she’s married and has been through the whole thing…
Can anyone foresee any problems with this? Also if you are already a bridesmaid for someone’s wedding is there any rule or etiquette that you shouldn’t accept a to be a bridesmaid for someone else’s?
Post # 3
Why would it be a problem? As long as the weddings aren’t on the same days, there shouldn’t be conflict.
Post # 4
i agree-dont know why it would be a problem
Post # 5
I don’t think it should be a problem. If the other girl asks your BM to be one of her BMs, you could always address your concerns with your friends and let her tell you they aren’t necessary!
Post # 6
@raziel1687: not a problem at all– she obviously seems like a great friend since other people are also attracted to being around her.
Post # 7
@raziel1687: Of course there won’t be a problem. It’s fine to pick her brain or ask her opinion, but she shouldn’t really be doing anything for you that would take much of her time.
Having too much of a problem with this would be like saying she’s not allowed to have other friends…
Post # 8
@raziel1687: Cna’t understand the problem, please elaborate.
Post # 9
I dont see a problem with this…and I have never heard of it being etiquette to not be a bridesmaid for 2 brides. Seems a bit precious to me.
Post # 10
@raziel1687: I don’t think there will be an issue. It shoud be a fun and joyous occasion for all involved and maybe the two of you will become closer because of this.
Please don’t hate me for asking—Are you a little jealous that she planned for her wedding to be before yours instead of after?
Post # 11
No, month apart should be fine, sure she now has to go to two showers and bach party events but they should be timed fairly far apart and not be an issue.
Post # 12
One major concern is my bridesmaid (my sister-in-law by the way) will have to cough up money for two bridesmaids dresses, and two times for hair, makeup, manicures…etc.
And also planning Bridal Showers, bachelorette parties, going to Bridal Shows…
I’m just thinking more in terms of my bridesmaid if all that is going to be too much for her…?
Post # 13
if you are concerned paying for hair/makeup/manicures will be too much, maybe you could offer to help pay for hers or not require her to get them all done?
Post # 14
@veryberry13: In the sense of the fact that I was engaged first (since May) and this girl is getting married before me, maybe. Because I’m tired of waiting to be married, I just want to get it over with already. lol
But I’m just concerned about sharing a bridesmaid. lol Even if her wedding is a month afer mine, I’d still be concerned.
Post # 15
@raziel1687: I don’t see why it would be a problem. Are you worried because you planned to lean on her at times and now you’re worried she won’t be there? I’m sure your BM will balance the two weddings just fine and give you as much help as she wants to give. Unless you plan on being one of those ‘it’s all about me all of the time’ brides then there will be no problems.
And hey, even if there are a few scheduling conflicts – it’s important to remember that your BM has a life outside of your wedding.
Post # 16
@raziel1687: How are you “sharing”? I don’t understand. Your weddings aren’t the same day or even the same week. I can’t see a conflict here.