(Closed) Bridesmaid´s boyfriends

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Should my bridesmaids invite new boyfriend´s when I´m flying half way around the world to see them



  • Post # 2
    47415 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    View original reply
    boda2destino:  Let’s be real here. You are not flying halfway around the world to see your bridesmaids. You are flying that distance because that is where you chose to get married.

    Post # 3
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    View original reply
    boda2destino:  Your bridesmaids should all get a +1. That’s really all there is to it. Your wedding day is about you and your husband, not having a girls’ bonding night with your friends. I don’t understand at all how them bringing a guest would take away from your “experience.”

    Post # 4
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Your day is going to be much more about you and your new husband than you and your bridesmaids once the wedding begins. If you don’t want people you don’t know at your wedding, that’s your choice and acceptable! But if this is about you spending time with them, it’s not going to have an impact either way. And keep in mind, they are already sharing YOU with your Fiance on that day, so it’s not really fair of you to keep them from being with their SOs.

    Post # 5
    3563 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    View original reply
    boda2destino:  Put yourself in their shoes.  If they were getting married, wouldn’t you be upset if they told you that you couldn’t bring your boyfriend?  To be honest, you’ll have them all to yourself for getting ready and stuff, but during the reception you’ll be busy greeting all your other guests, I’m sure it would be nice for them to have their SO’s there to dance with/hang out with too. 

    Post # 6
    7528 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Wow, I couldn’t imagine not wanting my friends to bring their dates just because I wanted to keep their attention all for myself.

    Post # 7
    6036 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State


    boda2destino:  your bridesmaids get a plus one. especially if they are traveling. But even if they weren’t they get a plus one. You sound ridiculous to say you wan them all to yourself. You will have other guests to mingle with and what may I ask are they to do during that time? sit off in a corner until you are ready to be with them again? stop being so self centered and let them bring a plus one of their choice.

    Post # 8
    4697 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Give them a plus 1. You cannot be serious with this crazy talk.


    Post # 9
    3467 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    View original reply
    boda2destino:  I don’t think I understand the question. This is for the wedding or some other event that literally requires the bridesmaids’ attention to be 100% on you (such as the bachelorette party or bridal shower)? I know you SAID wedding, but I imagine I’m missing something because you surely aren’t considering banning your bridesmaids from having +1s just because you prefer they focus on you at an event that is literally all about you and someone else. Also, in what sense are you traveling to “see” them. Aren’t you traveling to attend your own wedding?

    Post # 10
    592 posts
    Busy bee

    I would give them a plus one. 

    Guranteed you’re not going to see them during the reception. You’re going to be pulled in a million directions. 

    Post # 11
    163 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2016 - Wentworth Country Club

    I am a firm believer that everyone should get a plus one. I don’t want to define how important someone else’s relationship is. If my married or engaged friends are bringing their SOs my other friends deserve to bring a date too. Who wants to go to a wedding solo?

    Post # 12
    2966 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    As a bridesmaid I have chosen not to take my Fiance with me to a semi-destination wedding, but it was left up to me, he was invited. 

    I think all wedding party members should have a +1

    Post # 13
    3232 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    View original reply
    boda2destino:  Wow…yes you need to invite them. Just…wow. 

    Post # 14
    2869 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    +1 it. You are going to be so wrapped up with your new husband and talking to family. She will need someone to hang with and not follow you around with every move.

    Post # 15
    1469 posts
    Bumble bee

    Of course they should have plus ones.

    i was a bridesmaid in a wedding for a bride that wanted a destination vacation type joint bachelor and bachlorette party. Her stipulation was that none of the bridal party was allowed to bring their spouses/partners To the vacation. HA! Needless to say her vision for her bachelorette never came through. 


    The topic ‘Bridesmaid´s boyfriends’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors