Post # 1
I want my bridesmaids to have fun at my wedding, but I also don´t live near them anymore and I want them all to myself. One bridesmaid is married, so she will obviously bring her husband, but another one is in a new relationship. I feel like inviting guys I haven´t met will take away from our experience together. And if I say yes to her, then I should tell my sister she can invite a dude she´s getting to know too? She asked about inviting him and my hesitation to answer made her think about it and she changed her mind. She said she wanted to spend time with me. I was really happy she thought that way too, but if my other friend is bringing hers, then I have to suggest it, no?
Post # 2
Let’s be real here. You are not flying halfway around the world to see your bridesmaids. You are flying that distance because that is where you chose to get married.
Post # 3
Your bridesmaids should all get a +1. That’s really all there is to it. Your wedding day is about you and your husband, not having a girls’ bonding night with your friends. I don’t understand at all how them bringing a guest would take away from your “experience.”
Post # 4
Your day is going to be much more about you and your new husband than you and your bridesmaids once the wedding begins. If you don’t want people you don’t know at your wedding, that’s your choice and acceptable! But if this is about you spending time with them, it’s not going to have an impact either way. And keep in mind, they are already sharing YOU with your Fiance on that day, so it’s not really fair of you to keep them from being with their SOs.
Post # 5
Put yourself in their shoes. If they were getting married, wouldn’t you be upset if they told you that you couldn’t bring your boyfriend? To be honest, you’ll have them all to yourself for getting ready and stuff, but during the reception you’ll be busy greeting all your other guests, I’m sure it would be nice for them to have their SO’s there to dance with/hang out with too.
Post # 6
Wow, I couldn’t imagine not wanting my friends to bring their dates just because I wanted to keep their attention all for myself.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
boda2destino: your bridesmaids get a plus one. especially if they are traveling. But even if they weren’t they get a plus one. You sound ridiculous to say you wan them all to yourself. You will have other guests to mingle with and what may I ask are they to do during that time? sit off in a corner until you are ready to be with them again? stop being so self centered and let them bring a plus one of their choice.
Post # 8
Give them a plus 1. You cannot be serious with this crazy talk.
Post # 9
I don’t think I understand the question. This is for the wedding or some other event that literally requires the bridesmaids’ attention to be 100% on you (such as the bachelorette party or bridal shower)? I know you SAID wedding, but I imagine I’m missing something because you surely aren’t considering banning your bridesmaids from having +1s just because you prefer they focus on you at an event that is literally all about you and someone else. Also, in what sense are you traveling to “see” them. Aren’t you traveling to attend your own wedding?
Post # 10
I would give them a plus one.
Guranteed you’re not going to see them during the reception. You’re going to be pulled in a million directions.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2016 - Wentworth Country Club
I am a firm believer that everyone should get a plus one. I don’t want to define how important someone else’s relationship is. If my married or engaged friends are bringing their SOs my other friends deserve to bring a date too. Who wants to go to a wedding solo?
Post # 12
As a bridesmaid I have chosen not to take my Fiance with me to a semi-destination wedding, but it was left up to me, he was invited.
I think all wedding party members should have a +1
Post # 13
Wow…yes you need to invite them. Just…wow.
Post # 14
+1 it. You are going to be so wrapped up with your new husband and talking to family. She will need someone to hang with and not follow you around with every move.
Post # 15
Of course they should have plus ones.
i was a bridesmaid in a wedding for a bride that wanted a destination vacation type joint bachelor and bachlorette party. Her stipulation was that none of the bridal party was allowed to bring their spouses/partners To the vacation. HA! Needless to say her vision for her bachelorette never came through.