(Closed) Bridesmaids, but FI doesn't want any groomsmen?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@PacificMrs:  I have 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man but really want 3 – Fiance has a Best Man but that’s it. I am waiting for responses here too.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

You don’t have to match unless you want to. I’ve never seen it done or seen pictures, but I’m sure it’ll look fine. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mepayne:  +1

I think it would be very unique and totally acceptable to just have bridesmaids if that’s what you wanted to do. Anything goes really.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You have two options.

1. Have groomsmen, but let them each wear whatever their Sunday-best-type outfit is, probably what they would be wearing to the wedding anyway. Maybe you can then give them coordinating ties or something to wear at the ceremony as an attendant gift.

2. Just have the bridesmaids. They can sit as you’ve said, or if you have four, you can can two on each side at the altar to provide balance and they can process in and out by themselves.

In photos, you will be fine. Whole sets of photos are taken with just the bride and the BMS, just the groom and the BMS, and the bide and groom with just the BMs. You just won’t have the groomsmen equivilent.

I highly recommend you have at least a few women recognized as bridesmaids. Even when they don’t do much, what they do contribute is so helpful. I can’t imagine having to get dressed on my own or not having had my best friends there to spend the entire morning with me. Plus, these are the women who will host any pre-wedding events in your honor, help you with DIY projects, maybe help you choose your venue or you dress or your menu.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I feel you.. this is exactly what’s been debated with my fiance and I ongoing throughout our engagement. He is insistant upon having/ needing only us at the ‘alter’ (though ours is a destination wedding), but I am  having my two best girlfriends as bm’s. I’m thinking of doing something similar to what you mentioned, in having the girls sit in the front rowas well (hoping not to offend anybody), but this is our compromise. So far, I’m so glad to have chosen them as bm’s, in that I’m happy I’ll have them there to share the morning of with, getting ready, etc. He isn’t having any groomsmen (but again, he doesn’t have a long, gorgeous dress to get into & carry around, either!;)

It might look unbalanced to some people, but I think it will all be lovely once said and done, and people won’t be concentrating on the lack of symmetry anyhow!

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