(Closed) Bridesmaid’s buy their own dress?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have never been in a wedding or been to a wedding where the bride paid for the bridesmaids dresses. I think part of the responsibility of being in the wedding, is paying for your own dress (most of the time). Also, $80 is pretty reasonable for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress.

Post # 4
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Your bridesmaids are supposed to pay for their own dress. However, if you can afford it, it is a nice gesture. However, it is not required of you. I’ve never been in a wedding where the bride payed for the dress, and I’m not paying for my girls’ dresses. Below is the “bridesmaid duties” from the Knot. Maybe it will help you feel better to see it’s proper etiquette for them to pay for their dress! Are you letting them choose their own dresses, or are you picking out multiples they can choose from? If you are letting them pick out their own completely, I would just show them the ones you like as guidelines and let them see if they can find a similar dress in their budget. 🙂


Here are a list of the bridemaids duties…via The Knot. Notice the second bullet point.


The bridesmaid is an integral part of any wedding, on hand to comfort, console, multitask, and party hearty at all bridal events. Whether it’s your first bridesmaid gig or your 50th, here’s a cheat sheet of your to-dos.


  • Offer to help with prewedding tasks. Try to be specific when you volunteer. For example, say, “Would you like me to help you shop for bridesmaid dresses/stuff invitations/pack for the honeymoon?” instead of just, “What can I do?”



  • Scout out bridesmaid dresses, shoes, jewelry, and other wedding accessories. Pay for the entire ensemble. (Break in your shoes before the wedding day — that will minimize slipping, blisters, and aching tootsies.)



  • Help to plan, cohost, and pay for the bridal shower and bachelorette party with other bridesmaids.



  • If the maid/matron of honor isn’t already handling this task, keep a record of all the gifts received at various parties and bridal showers (so that the bride/couple can write thank-you notes); maintain RSVP lists.



  • Attend the ceremony rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. (Keep abreast of allprewedding parties, and go to as many as possible.)



  • Run last-minute errands. On the day of the wedding, be on hand to confirm flower delivery times, meet and greet the ceremony officiant, or satisfy junk food cravings.



  • Stand in the receiving line at the bride’s request.



  • Serve as auxiliary hostess at the reception by introducing guests, making sure they know where the bar is located, and inviting them to sign the guest book.



  • Hit the dance floor when the music kicks in. Dance with groomsmen during the formal first-dance sequence. Also, be on the lookout for toe-tapping guests who might need encouragement and/or a dance partner.



  • Give the matron/maid of honor a break by helping to carry the bride’s wedding gown train whenever necessary. Bustle the train before dancing begins, and be ready to help fix it if it comes unhooked. Accompany the bride on visits to the restroom, if asked.



  • Purchase a wedding present perhaps with one or several of the other bridesmaids. This provides more buying power, and two heads are better than one when it comes to wedding gift ideas. Sometimes the entire bridesmaid troupe pitches in for one knock-her-socks-off wedding gift.



  • Be a trooper, no matter how stressful the ordeal becomes. Try not to complain about the bridesmaid dress — even if the color is horrendous. Be gracious and tactful.



  • Provide plenty of emotional support during the planning and on the wedding day.

Post # 5
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Assuming you’re North American, it’s almost always the case that bridesmaids pay for their own dresses.

Post # 6
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I am the only bride I’ve ever known who paid for her bridesmaid dresses. $80 is a good price to ask them to pay….but it’d be nice if you let them pick their own shoes and other parts of their outfit if you think they’re strapped on cash.

Post # 8
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hello! Usually most people expect to pay for their bridal party wear. The gowns I chose were $200, and I paid $50 towards each gown and the shipping fees. We don’t bleed money so it’s so hard to decide where and when to pay!

Post # 9
1870 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man many times over and most of the time have paid for my own dress. There were a couple times that the bride did, but that’s a courtesy–it’s not the norm.

$100 isn’t bad. It’ll probably come out more like $150 with alterations, but in general, I’ve always figured I’d be shelling out around $200 for the dress.

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