(Closed) Bridesmaids choose their own dresses in a certain colour?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

Even though I had a very formal country club wedding, I was pretty laid back about the dresses as I didn’t want to make demands on my bridesmaids that I thought would be unreasonable. I asked that they all wear a black dress of their choosing that they loved and would look classy and elegant and black heels. They all looked gorgeous and they all got to wear a dress that they picked and felt suited them best, so we were all happy.  I don’t think the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses have to match, unless that’s what you really want. My BM’s all had matching shawls and necklaces (I gifted these to them) which really pulled the looks together and made them all look in-sync but not identical.  They all looked so elegant.

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I told the girls to get a dress in their budget that makes them feel amazing, in navy, gold or blush. They all ended up with navy, high necks, and lacy detail. It turned out fantastically! I had the three leftmost dresses on my side, and the one-shoulder dress was my husband’s groomswoman 🙂  

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I told my girls, long and burgundy or wine red and they can choose their style. I gave options and 4 out of 6 chose the same, so just two will look different but I don’t mind as the groomsmen will be in blue but varying shades.

It cut down on my stress. I’m gifting them golden leaf headbands so I think it’ll be beautiful.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

depends pm ypur bridesmaid… I only have one and the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress was still the biggest headache (aside from guest list, but that’s another story!)… we went shopping together and I was thinking ‘blues/ purples/ white/ silver/ black’… so you’d think there would be heaps of options, right (oh, and spring racing time so HEAPS of dresses in stores)? Nope. We found one we both LOVED and got it. She took it home and her mum (yup, HER mum) hated it. So I spent the next month stressing about the stupid dress (which we both loved!!) and ended up buying a convertible dress in the same colour (as I’d already purchased the Groomsmen ties).

My advice would be the same as those above after my horror story (yes, I’m being overly dramatic)- choose one store, one colour, one length (if you want) and tell them to go nuts.

Post # 20
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Personally, I think it takes a ton of effort to make the dresses look cohesive.  It can be done well, but it can also look like a jumbled mess.  

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We did this! They are all from ASOS, although that was not a requirement, it just worked out that way. I love how it looked. They showed me what they were ordering before they actually bought it in case I didn’t like the dress they chose, but they all chose something beautiful and it was never an issue. I love this detail shot our photographer took.

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

The color I wanted was really more of a merlot/Marsala, but then I realized that 2 bridesmaids had nearly the same color purple dresses in different styles, (including my sister who HATES shopping) so I asked the third to just see if she could find anything she liked in a smilar color.  She found something at jcp for like $40.  I think they looked really great!

(I don’t know why that bouquet ribbon looks red, it was actually a burgundy matching the flowers.)

Post # 23
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Busy bee

I gave a color and let my BM’s pick their own dresses.  I couldn’t have cared less, honestly, as long as they looked nice and bridesmaids-y, but I had one who made the biggest effing deal of me having to make a big deal of her dress.  I was like, just pick it out, and I’m thinking, you’re welcome for letting you.  So just keep in mind that although most people (my other BM’s) will be grateful, there may be that one who will still be an asshole about it.

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

This is what I did. I gave basic guidelines (this colour scheme, above the knee, no shiny material) but looking back I should have maybe given a few more specifics. And  I also should have made sure I saw every dress before they bought them. The issue I ran into was that instead of picking one colour I picked 3 different shades of pink and said to go with one of those. I had 7 bridesmaids and everyone picked the exact same shade of pink except for one person. At the last minute another bridesmaid decided (without me asking) to switch to a different dress that she already owned, so at least there were two of them in another colour. They did stand out a bit. Also, while no one wore shiny fabric , there was a bit more variety in the fabrics than I was anticipating. So yeah, it was a little jumbled, but overall I really thought they looked great. And it was nice that everyone was able to get something that they liked, could afford, and felt good in. A lot of them weren’t very “bridesmaidy” either so I know a few of them have been able to wear their dresses again. 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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wolfeyes :  I had mismatched bridesmaids and only told them what color to wear. I sent them emails of examples of the dress styles I liked and the exact colors I was looking for. I asked them to send me a picture of the dresses they chose so I could approve them and it all came together awesomely!

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I’m doing it, and I love it: it allows the ladies to have a dress they love and can be comfortable in.

I gave them the color for DB (wisteria) and length (short above or at knee). As long as they are the same color, and length; it doesn’t really matter to me. 

These were 2 of the 3 choices 

Post # 27
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Helper bee

I told my bridesmaids the designer, length, color and fabric and they chose whatever style worked best for them since they were all different sizes and heights. Honestly, they looked so beautiful because they chose what worked for their bodies. I was in a wedding recently where all the girls wore the same dress on all different body types and it didn’t work in my opinion. Here’s a photo from my wedding:

 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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MissZToMrsG :  This is exactly what I want to do for my own wedding. It’s the perfect way to let your bridemaids choose what they are comfortable with as they are all different shapes and sizes. You are giving them a little direction but overall letting them choose a dress. 

This is an inspiration picture I’m using to show my bridesmaids what I want. 

I also have a bridesman and my Fiance has two groomswoman. My bridesman with be wearing a vest the same color as the bridesmaids dresses and the groomswoman will be wearing the same color dress as the groomsmen vest. Here is an inspiration photo. 

Yes, the bridesmaids and groomsmen will be wearing different colors. We wanted to stay away from choosing one solid color. 

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’m currently having my 3 bridesmaid pick out their own dresses with a few rules- the color gray (mercury from davids bridal all of us are in different states so I needed somewhere they could all easily locate) chiffon and floor length. So far it’s been working out amazingly! My twin who’s my man of honor will be getting a tux in the same shade of gray to match the girls as well.  Even though my wedding is going to be more formal having my girls in dresses that they feel comfortable is the most important thing to me 

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