Post # 1
So my bridal shower was yesterday and 4 of my 6 bridesmaids DID NOT show after all of them RSVPed a little less than a week ago (I personally called them). They have known the date since July 21st (the day we went dress shopping for them). I have text them reminders, sent them personal messages on fb about it, called them and reminded them about it, sent invitations to help them remember and what do they do?? FORGET!!!!!!!!!!!! I’m just so hurt and I feel so let down by them. I don’t know what to do. And one of the 4 girls that wasn’t there was my 2nd Maid/Matron of Honor, my BFF!!!!!! I want to demote her. She hasn’t been there AT ALL for anything else when the other girls have at least have. I don’t ask much of anything from these girls. I have ALWAYS been there for them. I am so sad they couldn’t show me the same respect. I was angry and ready 2 kick some girls out yesterday but today I’m just nonchalant and want to be over the feeling. What would you brides do if this happened to you? Oh, and none of them had a good excuse except one bridesmaid who had to work (which she could have requested off considering the fact that I told her about this back in July but I’m willing to get over that).
Post # 3
Did you throw your own shower? Just curious.
Anyway, it’s rude that they RSVP’d yes and then didn’t show. You can’t demote or “fire” anyone. Maybe something came up. You never know unless you ask them, calmly and rationally and like an adult what happened. Take them out to coffee one at a time and just say, “Oh hey, I missed you at my shower!” Maybe they’ll give you their reason. Whatever it is, I’m sure they have one.
Post # 4
No I did not throw my own shower. And no they didn’t have a reason. I already spoke with all of them. They said they just forgot except that one who was still at work.
Post # 5
@lindseyl06: I would certainly be upset, but are they required to attend those events? I guess I don’t really understand the issue since showers aren’t so big in my circle of friends. What would having them there have added to your shower?
Post # 6
To be honest, I would be really upset. It makes it seem like they don’t care about you, and they clearly are not organized. What will happen when it comes to the wedding? What if they forget that too?
Post # 7
Your shower was incredibly early. I don’t think my bridesmaids really thought much about my wedding in general, except for 2 weeks before, and then 5 months out when we bought the dresses. People have lives that they get busy with – it happens. Two of my bridesmaids didn’t come to the shower but they were there at the wedding, and, to be honest, my shower didn’t even cross my mind by the time the wedding rolled around.
Post # 8
I would have understood if they would have told me they weren’t able to make it but days before the shower I called to see if they would be able to make it. All of them said yes. I didn’t hear anything else otherwise. I don’t ask much from these girls and they do not work on the weekends and they live about 15 minutes away from where the shower took place. The 2 bridesmaids that did show lived over 2 hrs away and made it. I was upset but I was wondering if this has ever happened to anyone else. Also the Maid/Matron of Honor I want to demote did not show for picking out the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses (she said she forgot and I reminded her numerous times). We were supposed to be getting together after that for her to see her dress but when I try to call her about that she avoids my calls (Remember we picked out the dresses back in July) and she still to this day has no clue what the dress looks like. She hasn’t helped very much at all (she was supposed to have been helping plan the bridal shower!). She complains about EVERYTHING. She has disrespected my friends and me at one point. I have spoked to her about these things (she was going thru something) and I thought we could move forward but I have a 2nd Maid/Matron of Honor who is picking up ALL her slack and I don’t think it’s fair she still receives that title as well when she isn’t doing anything.