(Closed) Bridesmaids dilemma

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
1583 posts
Bumble bee

@lildiane:  I think youre only as good as your word so you should have her in your wedding as well.

Post # 4
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

When did you tell her you would be in each other’s weddings? Are we talking about as children? If that’s the case, you probably shouldn’t ask her. Your FI’s opinion is important here too, especially because it’s important to him.

 

Post # 6
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

@lildiane:  I really don’t think you’re held by a promise you made when you were a child. It’s nice of her to include you in her wedding but you don’t have to reciprocate. Think of it this way – if you don’t include her she may be upset for a little while, but if you do include her everyone else will be upset dealing with her for the next year or so.

Unless YOU really want to have her, I wouldn’t.  

Post # 7
Member
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@lildiane:  I think she has just assumed that she is bridemaid and i have just gone along with it.

Sorry to say it, but you’re making the situation worse by allowing her to continue thinking she’s in the bridal party.  If she makes comments about including herself, you need to step up and be honest with her.  

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