Post # 1
The Bridesmaid or Best Man dress I picked out for our gray and yellow wedding:
I specifically chose one that was neutral and chiffon, so it is very easy to wear it again! They weren’t thrilled with the price so I even offered to pay for a portion of it. Then two of them went to go try it on in the store, and when she called me afterwards she said, “Well the dress was really cute, but we weren’t sold on the color. They have some really pretty colors. We really liked this bright blue one that they had.”
Um, WHAT?! Seriously, I wish I could say that they’ve never been Bridesmaid or Best Man before and aren’t familiar with Bridesmaid or Best Man etiquette, but they both have been in weddings before. I am just so annoyed, I’ve seen this material in person and I love it.
I’m all about pleasing my Bridesmaid or Best Man but seriously, at the very *least*, isn’t it the Bridesmaid or Best Man duty to wear the dress chosen by the bride? I even told her that I’ve already ordered the flowers, cake, linens EVERYTHING for gray and yellow and she was like “Well maybe another color can still go.” I was just really nice, saying I would order a swatch and look at the color again and figure it out but honestly I just want to tell them how much they hurt my feelings. UGH.
I mean, it’s MY wedding! Please tell me I’m not being a total bridezilla.
Post # 3
The colour of that dress you posted was really nice. Maybe assure them that they will look beautiful, especially with the flowers.
The dress is so pretty.
Post # 4
1) Love the gray and yellow concept.
2) Last I checked, it’s your wedding and they agreed to be bridesmaids, which means doing whatever the bride wants. And you’re not being a bridezilla anyway.
3) I LOVE that dress. I wish some of my brides had put thought into the silhouette and material!
Post # 5
I love that dress and would rather wear that than bright blue…also, I wouldn’t be bitching if the bride had generously offered to pay for a part of the dress. It can easily be worn again and it’s a flattering neutral color, so they’re kind of being whiny.
Post # 7
I love it!! Just let them know they can sell it on ebay or craigslist afterwards if they don’t wanna wear it again.
Post # 8
I am in the wedding party for my best friend who picked black for her Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. One of our other friends who is a bridesmaid (and one of my MOHs) was complaining at first too. She thought Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses should be colorful. My friend the bride told her to suck it up, and I already pre-warned her that I wanted her and the rest of my wedding party in a gray chiffon dress of their choosing. She wasn’t thrilled at first, but she loves us, so she’s dealing with it and looking at the bright side of having dresses that are totally re-wearable.
So no, you are not being a bridezilla!
PS if, your girls don’t want to keep the dress after, send me a message! I know at least one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man wants that exact dress you picked out!!
Post # 9
no. you are not being a ‘zilla. if you specified from the get go that they would all be wearing a colour of your choosing & they said yes then they have to grin and bear it.
it would be different if you had said that they could pick whatever they want, but that is not the case.
I think the grey looks gorgeous! (i could be biased though!)
eta: who makes the dress?
Post # 10
wow… I understand maybe not liking the dress because of the way it fit or made them look but adding another color to your wedding because they don’t llike the grey???? just wow… I really like that dress, color included.
Post # 11
Sorry they’re being sucky about this! It’s a beautiful dress and stick to your guns 🙂
Post # 11
Its hard for people to imagine what your color scheme is based on just looking at one color. I had a hard time convincing anyone that I wanted green shoes for my wedding.
I found some pics of bridemaids w grey dresses, maybe if they see what your final look will be, they’ll be less bitchy.
Post # 12
Wow. That’s crazy. I’ve been having issues with Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses as well, and I’m having a grey and yellow wedding also. I think that dress is beautiful. It is really nice that you offered to pay a portion of them, and they should be thankful. Blue isn’t your wedding color, so I don’t even know why they would say that.
Tell them they are wearing grey!! Lol! It’s your wedding!!
Post # 13
Love it. If they are good BM’s they will suck it up.
Post # 14
wtf, i wouldn’t bother ordering a swatch. tell them to get the grey, that’s that.
Post # 15
Thanks for the moral support bees! I’m going to call them tonight and hopefully not have an anxiety attack about telling them they have to buy it even if they don’t like it.
@missmouse29: It’s from J. Crew. My wedding dress and groomsmen’s suits are from there as well 🙂