(Closed) Bridesmaids Drama

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: My Opinion is..

    Get over it, you're being an immature drama queen

    I feel so bad for you, don't pay for the dress. It's not your responsibility.

    Pay for them to get the dress

  • Post # 110
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    1057 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @mariana17:  Keep in mind that in addition to buying the dress, they will also have to pay for alterations… not to mention everything else that it costs to be in a wedding.

    Post # 112
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    18 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Sorry to hear bout what youre going through. Thats awful and id be pissed too. I think the dress is cute! I hate how some bridesmaids get selfish and refuse to wear a dress. The dress isnt ridiculous looking and the day is truly about what the BRIDE wants. You’ve been shopping for a year now and they knew what was expected.  When you agree to be in a wedding, you are WELL aware of the costs!!

    That being said, you have other girls that are more than happy for you and will be there for you. Focus on the positive with them and if the other girls want out, its their loss!

    Post # 113
    Member
    45 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I say you find yourself new bridesmaids. I don’t see the point of bridesmaids (even though I have 4) . It’s mainly for pictures anyways. But if they can afford it they should have told you a long time ago. bridesmaids don’t have to wear the dress, their job is to wear whatever the bride wants and smile about it. 

    Post # 114
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    30 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @mariana17:  You have nothing to worry about at all! I feel really bad for you– I was just in a friend’s wedding where she turned into a total bridezilla, demanding all kinds of hidden tasks and money, and you are not that! The dress I asked my bridesmaids to get was also $200 and one bridesmaid (the bride who I just talked about, who is also in my wedding) held up the entire order because she felt like I didn’t know what I was talking about for deadlines. She then refused to order extra length on the dress but lied and said she did (I saw the sales slip, I know it isn’t true), and now she looks like she’s going to a party not a wedding. In the end, you really can’t control your bridesmaids, but honestly that’s not reflection on you. Also, I am insisting my bridesmaids put their hair up, because mine will be down– completely reasonable :). Beautiful dresses!

    Post # 115
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    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    Ok as someone from the UK I think it is so rude to expect your bridesmaids to pay for their own stuff but I guess there are different customs in thee countries. Here if someone is doing us the honour of being in our bridal party we pay for their bridesmaid specific expenses. these ladies have told you they don’t like the dress AND they can’t afford it. It’s not your place to question that. Have you ever considered if they were being such a pain saying no to everything to just asking them to look for dresses they like and see the similarities between any of them 

    Post # 116
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    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    Also I think brides who insist their bridesmaids wear their hair and makeup a certain way and certain shoes etc unless they are willing to pay for it need to step back and loosen the bride ills reigns. It’s a wedding. It should be about love. The bridal party are your closest friends. You should want them to feel good above anything else 

    Post # 117
    Member
    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    Also I think brides who insist their bridesmaids wear their hair and makeup a certain way and certain shoes etc unless they are willing to pay for it need to step back and loosen the bride ills reigns. It’s a wedding. It should be about love. The bridal party are your closest friends. You should want them to feel good above anything else

    Post # 119
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    96 posts
    Worker bee

    I was inclined to agree with the bride on this one, but seeing how she’s answering comments that don’t completely agree with her, it seems she has a tendency to be snarky, defensive, and passive aggressive. So maybe there is more to the story.

    Honestly though, based on just the facts presented, it would be my incilation to agree that the bride is not at fault and she should not have to pay for the dresses.

    Stuff like this is good in the long run though. It shows you who your real friends are when “shit hits the fan” as it were. Better to know now instead of when things really start to get difficult.

    The way I chose my bridal party was basically this: “Would this person drop everything and come running if I were in the hospital?” I think that’s a good litmus test for true blue attendants!

    Post # 120
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    176 posts
    Blushing bee

    I honestly do not think that dress is figure flattering on that second girl. I don’t think that rouching is flattering on everyone. Did they all agree to the dress and then changed their minds? Do they all have to wear their hair up?

    I would say.. help the girls who cant afford it pay for a portion of their dress.

    Or if it really doesnt matter, then just have three girls.

    Post # 121
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    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    They said YES to being in your wedding and they are expected to pay for their own dresses. Very rarely do they get a cheap dress that they are going to wear again. If they cannot handle the responsibility of being in your wedding then they shouldn’t have said yes in the first place. I, too, had a wedding party member drop out with only a couple months to go. Why? Why now? You tell me you have an “emergency” that’s not even your problem. If they don’t want to be in the wedding then they should say so from the get go instead of putting more stress on brides and forcing them to scrambled to find people to fill in last minute.

    Why are bridesmaids so entitled nowadays? You said yes, suck it up and wear the dress and hairstyle your bride-friend wants for ONE FREAKING DAY. Goodness!

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