(Closed) Bridesmaids Drama

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: My Opinion is..
    Get over it, you're being an immature drama queen : (58 votes)
    28 %
    I feel so bad for you, don't pay for the dress. It's not your responsibility. : (108 votes)
    52 %
    Pay for them to get the dress : (43 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 122
    2330 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @destinwed:  +1! 

    The only reason why I was able to get mine down to 120 is because I have 10 of them and I was walking out of the door when the sales lady stopped me. 

    I’m sorry but a decent bridesmaids dress, specially a floor length one, is going to cost easily 200 dollars. I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man a couple of times where the dresses were 350 dollars. They were absolutely stunning!

    BMs need to factor in the amount of money they will be spending before they say Yes because they really don’t understand how this type of behavior affects a bride that is already stressed to begin with.


    Post # 123
    184 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - The Heathman Lodge (Vancouver)


    painted with cat vomit….LOVE it!

    I was very cautious with my BMs….My colors are “clover” (thanks davids bridal), brown and silver.

    The brown dress looked great on everyone, but the groomsmen already have brown tuxes (thats a lot) and silver was kind of an odd shade to have next to my dress (imo). 

    Both MoHs and FIs sister made sure I was chosing what I wanted. Yes, the dress could be worn again in brown or silver as a “club” dress (2 of the 5 used that as bargaining lol) but it is my day. 

    I apologized, and said I was going with clover. I was so relieved when the other two said “it’s your day, you should get to pick!”

    Post # 124
    373 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Beach

    Drama with the Bridesmaid or Best Man, you sound like me lol I have the same problem. I would say test the situation try looking for dresses that range from 100-150 $ (even if you don’t like them that much its just for a test) and see what they think. Another option is that you tell them you color pallete and each looks for a dress by her own. I first tested on how they would react if I went from  200 $ dress to a 100 $ one and they said it would still be expensive lol. So obviously it wasnt about money problems they were just very careless!! So I said whoever wants to be involved can wear a dress within my color pallete for entrance and pic and whoever isnt feeling comfy can do what they want lol. They all wanted to be part of our wedding so they all said they will look on their own. Few days later the Bridesmaid or Best Man called me and said they cant find dresses under 250 $ and wanted to go back to the original dress i had picked out but it was sold out lol. So now they got their dresses for 250 which is more than i have asked for but its their fault. 


    Sorry your feelin depressed, by advice dont anything ruin your good mood and stress you and have fun with it

    Post # 125
    231 posts
    Helper bee

    Just from someone who feels like they have big ears to, I know how your first bridesmaid feels. You may not think she does, but if she is uncomfortable with it then she shouldnt have to. I was bullied in school for my ears, and although my head has grown into them, I still feel self consious about them so I always wear my hair down. 

    Now as for them backing out. Well thats not right. If you said the price from the begining thehn it seems very weird that they would back out. I honestly think that they just don’t like dress. You tried on so many before they coldnt agree on so you picked one for them. Its impossible to keep everyone happy because everyone has different taste. I would just stick with the 3 you have now. Its your wedding and you shouldn thave to compromise with anyone anymore. You tried and they were picky. Just let it go and stick with the loyal girls you’ve got already

    Post # 126
    558 posts
    Busy bee

    I think you could find a prettier dress for that price?

    I’d just go to a department store with the maids and get a pleasant Summery dress there.

    Get those other maids back on board, this is so not worth falling out over.

    I’m sure you could find a cheaper dress for everyone? Just show them 2 colors you want them to choose from and they can look for something themselves, as long as you have the final say.

    I wouldn’t tell them how to wear their hair or make-up.. I thought the main thing was just the Color of the dress to not clash with the color of the wedding theme?

    If you want them to “match” you could say : everyone straight hair, or everyone wavy hair, but up or down, short or long should be up to them. 

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