Post # 1
I am having second thoughts about having bridesmaids for my wedidng. At first, I was going to have 2 Maid/Matron of Honor and 3BMs. However, one of the Maid/Matron of Honor told me that she does not want to be a Maid/Matron of Honor, she only wants to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Also, the girls don’t seem too thrilled to be walking either. I wanted to go to some bridal events that I had tickets to, however, 2 bailed on me last minute. My wedding is a year away and no one has put down a deposit on dresses. Is it too late to say, “Love you guys, but I decided on not having a bridal party?” However, at the same time, I don’t want to ruin the friendship …honest thoughts please!!!
Post # 3
A year out is still plenty of time for them to put deposits on dresses. Have you talked to the store to find out the deadline for ordering for your wedding date? Usually it’s about 6 months out, so I wouldn’t worry about it.
As far as your MOH/BM be thankful she told you now that she can’t take on the full responsibility of being MOH! It would have been far worse if she had agreed and then let you down when she didn’t have enough time (or money or whatever the circumstance) to be your Maid/Matron of Honor closer to the wedding!
I think you can give your friends a bit of leeway here. Remember that this is your wedding and it’s only this important to you. Technically all that’s required of your girls is that they show up on the day in a dress and walk down the aisle.
Post # 4
You know, if they arn’t getting married they probably don’t want to go to a bridal show, I wouldn’t. It’s really no fun if you are not getting married, go with your Fiance instead. If you choose not to have a Bridal Party, do it becasue you don’t want one, not becasue you think they don’t want to do it, since that will hurt them. Your wedding is more than a year away, there is no way they are going to be nearly as excited as u r. Mabe when the date gets closer.
Post # 5
I’m going to be a bridesmaid in my boyfriend’s brother’s wedding. I love wedding/event planning and everything that comes with the territory. I’m hoping we go to a bridal show. Just because I wouldn’t be the bride doesn’t take away from how fun dress shopping is! (Even if the dress isn’t for me!)
It sounds like there’s a high probability that a couple of your bridesmaids might be jealous that you are getting married. There is no excuse for not being supportive of you. Do you have a sister or some other friends who you know wouldn’t act that way?? Maybe ask them to be in the wedding instead?! (although “un-bridesmaiding” someone I’m sure is bound to cause problems–I really don’t know how that would work as I’ve never heard of anyone ever firing a BM!)