(Closed) Bridesmaids dress

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BelleoftheNorth:

She sounds very inconsiderate.  Be honest and tell her 300 is too much. it is! Do you have a pic I’d love to see it.

Post # 4
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629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

$300 is really out there for a bridesmaid’s dress.  She needs to get off of her high horse and pick something more reasonable.  That is pretty inconsiderate to her girls.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree, I wouldn’t pay $300 for any dress let alone one you would probably only wear once… especially if it is like half of your pay check.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@BelleoftheNorth: $280 for that?! is she crazy? This is why I am telling my bridesmaids to go to David’s Bridal and pick out there own dresses… I am giving them the specific color and they all have to be about the same length but thats about it…

Post # 8
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4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BelleoftheNorth:

DB has more adorable dresses than that!  I would ask if you guys can go look for something more afordable, if she dosn’t budge, I’d pull out.

Post # 11
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you should do some research and find some alternatives that look similar and offer those as possibilities to her. 

Are you close with any of the other bridesmaids?  Maybe you can contact them and get them on board with telling her that $280 for a dress, plus alterations, and possibly shoes, is going to be too much to spend.

You are not out of line about this, just tread lightly and try to be positive about the other options out there.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I understand that it would be hard. Maybe if you say something along the lines of you cannot spend that kind of money on a dress and that you are worried about it being strapless any ways and if you are required to have that specific dress you cannot do it. as long as you say it politely you should be okay, there will most likely be hurt feelings but if she is really your friend she will either pick a different dress or get over it.

Post # 13
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4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BelleoftheNorth:

Be honest, tell her that you really want to be in her wedding since she is your oldest friend, but that you cannot afford that dress and you’re worried you won’t be able to be her Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Also offer to go with her to look at some other possibilities.  Tell her she will probably like other dresses once she sees them on you.

Also look for deals online.  I ordered my Alfred Angelo Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses online for 106 + shipping ($15) at Pearl’s Place, when in stores they wanted 180! We don’t have them yet, but I’m hoping they’ll be great.

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would honestly not start by saying anything about not being able to be in her wedding if she doesn’t change her mind.  She may get her feelings really hurt about it.

I honestly think, starting simple with telling her you like the dress, but think that something a little cheaper would be better, and then if she is still being stubborn you can bring out the big guns.  No need stirring the pot anymore than it has to be.

Post # 16
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338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yeah that is ridiculous.. she complained about how much the dress was in the previous wedding then asks HER girls to pay $300 for a dress you could almost definitely find elsewhere for a lot cheaper, that looks very similar?  She refuses to wear strapless for yours then makes her girls wear strapless?  How ridiculous!

I personally love strapless dresses & love sweetheart necklines, but there are a couple of my bridesmaids who I know aren’t comfortable with it because although they’re very slender, they’re pretty “busty” as my grandmother would like to say (my grandma pulled up the top of 1 of my dresses once & informed me “You can’t help that you’re busty”.. haha).  That was probably the #1 reason I let the girls pick out their dress in the color & length they wanted.. I love strapless & would have picked out a strapless dress, but I was considerate of the feelings/comfort of my friends and wanted them to feel comfortable since they’d be wearing it all day!

Can you maybe research other dresses online to try to find other designers that carry dresses in a similar style but that are more affordable, and send them to her as ideas?  You could say that after looking more into finances you may not be able to afford a $300 dress, but you’d still love to be a part of her day, & that you took time to look at other dresses that are similar but cost less for the benefit of ALL the BMs, and ask if she’d be willing to compromise?

 

EDIT: I apparently take too long to type.. haha, I think all the PPs said basically the same thing I did while I was mid-typing.. just explain that it’s a lot of money & offer some alternatives to the dress!

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