(Closed) bridesmaids dress as a guest?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it bad to wear a bridesmaids dress from one wedding to another wedding while attending as a guest
    Yes..that would be horrible! : (4 votes)
    7 %
    no, no problem at all. : (31 votes)
    54 %
    only a problem if the brides will be at eachother's weddings : (16 votes)
    28 %
    other--elaborate below! : (6 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I’d say that’s fine if the bride/other bridesmaids aren’t there. If they are, I think it’s still okay but I’d recommend adding a sash or broach or wearing a cardigan or something to change it up a bit.

    Post # 4
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    55 posts
    Worker bee

    Isn’t that every bride’s dream?  For her bridesmaids to be able to "Wear the dress again"?  If it’s not something too bridesmaidsy – like screams satin and silk taffeta, I think you’ll be ok.  Or if it happens to be in the same color scheme as the wedding you’re attending – now that’s faux paus!

    Post # 5
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    <p style=”margin: 0in 0in 0pt” class=”MsoNormal”><font face=”Times New Roman” size=”3″>I agree with iviary – even if there are brides and/or bridesmaids from the other wedding, I would still wear it as long as it’s not too dramatic (extremely long & frilly etc.) and also change it up a bit with some accessories.</font>

     

     

    Post # 6
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    If it isn’t sooooo nice and fancy that you look like you belong in the wedding party you’re good. I"m under the impression you want to wear it again b/c it’s cute, which means it’s NOT a typical bm dress, riiiiight? Wear it! No big deal. If ayone goes, "hey didn’t you wear that in so-and-so’s wedding?" just say "yeah but i love it!" so it’s less of an "i’m broke" and more of a gracious thing

    Post # 7
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    2641 posts
    Sugar bee

    I can’t just say go ahead, without seeing it.  Can you provide a picture or link?  Bm dresses vary, greatly.  And how does your dress compare to the dresses the Bridesmaid or Best Man for these weddings will wear?  If they are wearing a similar style and color, I wouldn’t wear the dress.  (Although if you have two dreses, that gives you more options.)  If the weddings you are attending as a guest are more formal than the weddings your a Maid/Matron of Honor in, I would say, that it would be OK.

    Without more details, I would be hesitant to recommend wearing the Maid/Matron of Honor dress.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Erm, just so long as it isn’t tooo bridesmaidsy… like you should be standing up w/ the bridal party… this defo calls for good judgement on your behalf.

    Post # 9
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    5 posts
    Newbee

    Sure, why not?

    Unless it has an electric blue butt bow. Then I have to say no. Or if it matches closely to the dresses the maids are wearing at the other weddings.

    Every bride claims that "she’s picked a dress to wear again", and I’ve YET to see a dress worn again!

    I live in a really small town and every couple years the local paper runs a "worst bridesmaids dress" contest. It’s hilarious! I’ve seen alot of BAD dresses though…more bad than good. (and I didn’t pick a good one myself…but it was cheap, and I bought them for my maids….and we had a burning ceremony afterwards…it was fun)

    Post # 10
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    440 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    As long as your comfortable doing it, and it’s after the wedding you wore it in – why not?! You can always throw a different wrap over it, wear different shows/jewelry… maye even have the hemline altered? I altered my Maid/Matron of Honor dress to wear to a Christmas party – so much easier than having to buy a new dress!

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

    I think it’s fine as long as it’s not too "bridesmaidy" (which I’m assuming it isn’t, if you’re considering wearing it again), isn’t the same color scheme as the wedding you’re attending, and isn’t more or less formal than the wedding you’re attending.  I know I’d be happy as a bride if my bridesmaids felt they could use their dresses again!

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    If it is after the wedding you are in, plus all the other things the girls have said, it should be ok. Do you have a picture?

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    i re wear bm dresses all the time! (as long as it’s after) although I told my bm’s they don’t have to wait sincew we got the dresses like a year early.

    Post # 14
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    45 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I agree with the other posters that rewearing your Maid/Matron of Honor dress should be fine as long as it’s otherwise appropriate to wear as a guest (i.e., not too formal, not styled too similar to the actual bridesmaid dresses, etc.) BUT I also think you might want to check with your fellow bridesmaids to make sure they’re not planning on re-wearing their dresses too!  If your same group of girlfriends is attending all of these weddings this year, I can totally picture multiple girls showing up in the same dress, which would be kind of hilarious.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think its okay but only if you wear the dress after you were in the wedding already (i.e. bridesmaid in wedding 1 then wear the dress to wedding 2). If you think the brides will take issue, ask them but I think it is fine!

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

    I really thought that the only appropriate place for bridesmaid dresses I’ve seen to wear again is to other weddings!  That whole generic, strapless thing translates well to weddings. I think if you dress the dress up with a cute bolero, shrug or wrap, and add some personal accessories, you can dress an old Bridesmaid or Best Man dress up or down for any wedding. Obviously if the color/style is too close to the wedding colors, you might want to save it for another wedding, but I think it’s a shame to wear a dress only once, especially if you like it!

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