Post # 1
My wedding is this May. I have always (well since Charlotte’s first wedding in SAC) imagined that my bridesmaids would wear Champagne colored dresses. When I got engaged last May, I had planned on Champagne dresses, but a couple of my bridesmaids expressed their concern that it wouldn’t look good on them. I changed the color to chocolate brown as that is another of my colors (tablecloths, part of the invites, etc). We are planning to go pick the dresses from DB in three weeks and I am changing my mind yet again. I think the champagne dresses look very classic and elegant. I also prefer champagne ties for the groomsmen over brown ties with their black tuxes. In addition, I feel that brown is more appropriate for a fall wedding, not a spring/summer wedding. My biggest concern is that the bridesmaids who complained will think that I want them to look bad. I honestly think they will look beautiful in the champagne dresses, but I want them to be comfortable and feel good in what they are wearing. I am asking that they pick any dress style they feel comfortable in, as long as it is not floor length, because I want them to pick what looks best on their body types.
Advice?? What should I do?
Post # 3
How many bridesmaids do you have? Would it be feasible to round them up for some shopping? If I were in your shoes, I’d find some dresses I liked in champagne and have the girls try them on. You might find that the girls do look washed out or they might find that they look great in that color! You (and they) could speculate forever about who is going to look good/bad in that color, but you won’t really know till you try something on! Good luck – and remember, it’s your day. If you want champagne, go for it. You might just say (tactfully) that having them in that color means the world to you and that you’d be more than happy to wear any color they want when it’s their turn!
Post # 4
I would do what you want. But I found that they also have two tone dresses. So mybe you can have the best of both. God luck
Post # 5
I have very fair skin and know from experience that a champagne dress looks terrible on me. Still, if I were in a wedding and the bride wanted me to wear a champagne dress…you can bet I’d wear that dress and have a smile on my face! 🙂 AND, who knows? Maybe the color will look great on the bridesmaids. I like ktdid23’s idea of taking a shopping trip together to see the color in person. Good luck!
Post # 6
I’m thinking that bringing the girls could end up being ugly. Champagne is gorgeous but it can be a tough color to pull off. But so can a million other colors and styles. Like linzella said, if my friend wanted me to wear champagne, then champagne I would wear without giving her grief about how the color looks on me. It’s not my wedding. Is there one neutral bridesmaid, or your maid of honor, that you could take instead that could get behind you? She may want to step up and take the pressure off you. The idea of having your ladies stand next to you is to support you through the process and the day – not stress you out. If that’s your vision then my goodness, that’s your dress!
Post # 7
I was in this same situation 5 months ago. Like you, I wanted my BMs to be comfortable with what they were wearing.
Having said that, I think that their objection may be because champagne isn’t really a universally flattering color, while chocolate brown is more of a neutral color that is generally flattering on every skin tone. I can understand your worries about brown… I almost had brown as my Bridesmaid or Best Man dress color, but changed it to black instead.
Getting to the point…It’s your wedding! When it comes down to it, they agreed to be your BMs because they’re your friends. It wasn’t conditional on the color you picked for their dresses. You only get one wedding…<span class=”Apple-style-span” style=”font-style: italic”>if you’ve always wanted champagne Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, have champagne Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses!
Post # 8
This is a tough question, because you have to find a way to balance your desire for your wedding to meet your aesthetic with your (very kind and considerate) desire for the maids to look and feel beautiful on your big day.
I think it’s great that you’ve taken your maids’ feelings into account, since it will definitely show both in person and in pictures if they feel beautiful in their gowns. You said that "some" of your maids expressed concern that they wouldn’t look good in champagne, so I wonder if you could find a compromise.
How many bridesmaidsdo you have, and how many didn’t want to wear champagne? If it’s a fairly even split, could you have all of your girls in the same style dress, but alternate the colors as they come down the aisle? So, maybe if you have 5 girls, girls 1, 3, and 5 would wear champagne while girls 2 and 4 wore brown. You could then give them all bright, springy flowers and have them all the same shoes to make it work with the spring season.
Then, maybe all of your guys could wear champagne ties like you want, but have brown pocket squares in their suit pockets to tie it all together?
This might be a way to keep everyone happy and still get the look and feel that you want for your wedding.
Post # 9
I agree, it’s your wedding and the girls need to suck a up, (I would). However, just to play devil’s advocate, champagne is not only aweful for fair skin tones it’s also not very flattering for larger girls. Could this be the real issue? If you suspect that one of your girls would feel truly uncomfortable in champaigne because of weight issues, that is a serious concern to consider. I know I would be misserable all day if I felt that I looked like a fat washed out whale, (sorry that was very blunt but it’s true).
Post # 10
I agree with all the others- champagne can be hard to pull off. have these BMs even tried it on yet, though?? they may be surprised….it could work!
I think that if you are paying for all or a majority of the dresses, then pick the color you want, the champage. If they are paying for most or all of it, let them wear the brown.
also, another thing to think about- are these chocolate brown naysayers going to get over it if you make them wear brown? are they the kind of people to suck it up, put it behind them, and have a great time at your wedding, or will they pouty and take away from your big day?
Post # 11
Amy, what did you end up deciding to do about your maids’ dresses? 🙂 I’d love to know how it turned out!