(Closed) Bridesmaid’s dress doesn’t fit…..

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am so sorry….

You will have to let her know privately that she is going to have to have the dress altered, if at all possible and/or lose some weight to fit or you are sorry, but she won’t be able to be part of the wedding party.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Can you rush order another dress?  Of course it would be her responsibility to pay…

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Would Spanx, or some other type of undergarment help enough for the dress to zip up?

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wow…she could always wear a shrug or cardigan to cover the open zipper…

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I cant see how some one can gain so much weight in a short amount of time. Are you sure she tried it on when she picked it up to make sure it fit? maybe she ordered the wrong size or they measured her wrong.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

So, it sounds like she didn’t gain so much weight recently but her measurements were not done recently. This is clearly her/your fault but not irreversable. Take the dress to a good independent seamstress and let them suggest the best alternative. I was in a wedding where we ordered the dresses almost 2 years in advance and in the end, the bride’S sister and Maid/Matron of Honor gained 4 sizes in that time due to quitting smoking. She took it to a seamstress who was able to work some sort of magic and the bride never knew. If the dresses are long you may have a better chance because there is generally some sort of excess hem that can be played with. If not, maybe ther’s a possibility to order extra material which can be added to the dress.  Losing weight may seem like the easy solution but likely it is not so. Best of luck, it’S not an easy topic to approach. Also, will you have a head table? Another bridesmaid in the same wedding unzipped her dress so she could comfortable sit through dinner and no one knew except for me who sat next to her because the head table backed the wall. She wore the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress for most of the evening and then changed into a better fitting dress for dancing.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My only comment is that while I understand you’re worried about the wedding, please have a bit of sympathy for your bridesmaid. This is probably very embarrassing for her, especially since so much attention is being drawn to her weight gain. I know you’re worried about the wedding, but remember that this girl is also your friend and please be kind. I’m sure a seamstress can find a way to solve the problem.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I completely agree with Encore.  I was in my SIL’s wedding in February and gained a lot of weight right before.  Even though I knew I’d have to wear that dress, it didn’t really change my eating habits.  If “you all have noticed it” do you also think that she has noticed it as well and is feeling very embarrassed?  Do you think she doesn’t realize that she’ll need to fit into this dress?

The way I see it, you have three options.  Get a new dress of the same style (help her with the cost, or see if they will exchange it, or buy an off-the-rack dress), get a corset back put in, or panels along the sides, OR get a new dress in a different style.  All of the options are going to be pricey, but at least if you get a new dress in a different size (rather than get strange alterations done), she is more likely to get good resale value.

If she has shown interest in losing weight, maybe offer to start exercising with her, or help her be healthier.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I actually really believe this is her problem to solve, and not yours.  Bridesmaids are responsible for ordering and fitting into their own dress.  In my bro’s wedding one of the bridesmaids decided to just order her street size without being measured and it was much too small, of course.  She took it to a seamstress and had panels added on either side to make it fit, she did this all on her own without mentioning it to the bride.. because it’s NOT the bride’s fault.  Your bridesmaid has three options: 1. Work with a seamstress to make the dress fit 2. Lose weight to make the dress fit 3.  Not stand up at the wedding.  I understand that it’s a sensitive subject because of her weight but she made the decisions that led to the dress not fitting and she seems to have no interest in rectifying the situation and that’s not cool in my opinion.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Maybe suggest to her to see if a seamstress can change out the zipper for a corset back. And find some fabric that matches kind of close for the privacy panel and laces.

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