(Closed) Bridesmaids dresses

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would start by asking each girl how much they are comfortable spending on a dress. I tried to keep ours as inexpensive as possible and ended up going with Dressilyme, since they have a huge range of styles (I let my girls choose their style) and can do custom sizing for $15 extra.

Post # 4
2715 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I picked a length, color, and fabric and let my BMs pick their own dresses.  I preferred the mismatched look and this way each girl could purchase something they were comfortable with.

If you want all of your girls in the same dress, you should start by asking them each privately what their budget is and then stick to the lowest one (or offer to make up the difference if you find a more expensive dress).  Don’t pick a dress then ask them while they are all together if they are ok with the price.  Some people have a hard time speaking out or would feel super guilty if they can’t afford what the bride wants.  You don’t want to make your BMs go into debt or back out over a dress.

Post # 5
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I took all my BMs to the bridal salon, told the consultant the color/length/fabric and I told all the girls that all I wanted was for them to match and pick something they are comfortable in, and can afford. I didn’t really care what dress they picked.  They all tried on 5 different styles, and unanimously picked their favorite.  DONE!

I was so glad there was no drama! The dress ended up costing a little more than what I had thought they would spend (I had picked out 2 dresses online from this store because they were cheaper) but they ALL loved this other dress, they picked it, so they can’t be upset at me over the price! lol

Post # 7
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MissCountryGirl727:  THIS.


I did the same thing and it went amazing. I originally thought we could do a mismatched thing but all of my maids ended up liking the same dress and the best part is they can’t whine about it to me because it’s what THEY wanted.

Post # 8
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BrideAliBean:  Yeah, I don’t know about you, but I feel pretty lucky to not have the bridesmaid drama I see other Bees having!  Quite frankly, IMO, the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are not that big of deal.  I’ve been to tons of weddings and could not tell you what type of dress they wore, only the color. All eyes will be on the bride!! LOL

Post # 9
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

For the mismatched look, I’m telling my girls to have a similar color in the dress they choose (i.e. rose/pink) and they can find something they like based on that. The dress can be black polka dots over rose, or a cool blue and rose matchup, etc.

That way they can work with their budget, personal style, and body type (and still make me happy)… 🙂

Post # 10
8879 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@FoxyBride14:  i gave my BM’s the color and took them to Alfred Angelo. it was highly recommended for me to go here. dresses ranged from $79-189.  I told them to choose any dress they wanted.  they all picked the same dress.  I think the dress was $139…plus alterations. and dresses that they will wear again.

my Maid/Matron of Honor thanked me for being a reasonable bride as she had just spent $400 plus alterations for her brother’s wedding for a dress she can never wear again.

Post # 11
4692 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@FoxyBride14:  In my experience, don’t let the girls have too much say. You are BOUND to have at least one or two hate and and unfortunately, that’s just too bad. They will never wear them again so just pick some options that aren’t too expensive.

If you want a cohesive look, assign them to one or two. I let my girls have too much say and it was a mistake. I let them pick from 3 from Target and they picked my least favorite which looks cheap. Ugh. Hopefully they will look nice day of. I felt terrible about making them buy the dress so they were $50

Post # 13
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Agree about asking privately!  And soon!  I made the mistake of thinking I’d wait until closer to our bridesmaid dress expedition when my maid of honour is over in October because I thought I was being OTT looking for dresses for them so early… but my other bridesmaid (I just have teh two) started looking at dresses & posted them in our joint private FB message.  Then posted something along the lines of “I don’t know what you have budgeted but I can probably afford max of X depending on shoes and hair/makeup etc”.  I nearly died! lol.  The total dress cost she was suggesting was about $100 more than I had in mind for them (I guess I should be lucky it was that way around).  MoH has a lot more expenses since she’s flying over for the wedding and she isn’t earning as much as we are to begin with, so I shot her a private message saying that I thought X was a reasonable amount but that if it’s too much either we can find a cheaper dress or I can make up the difference.  I still haven’t heard back from her re that specifically and I still feel bad!

The only up side to having to fly home for my gran’s funeral on Friday is I will finally get another chance to chat with MoH in person and we can have an honest discussion about what’s reasonable etc.  These things are awkward, and I didn’t even mean it to be! lol.

Post # 15
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I took my Maid/Matron of Honor to the store and the two of us started trying on dresses (I already knew I wanted long dresses). I couldn’t get the others to come so I tried them on too since I have a similar body shape to two of them and she had a similar shape to the other. Once we found one that looked good on both of us… we chose a color. I had narrowed down to 2-3 colors… and then just held up the different colored dresses up to both of us. once again similar coloring for both of us to the other BM’s. 

You can go an easier route by picking a color, fabric, and designer you like and having them go from there. Or you can pick the dress you want and have them pick the color or just choose a color. You’re the bride… and while it’s nice to get your BM’s opinions, unless your having different dresses… you’re bound to have one disagree with the choice!

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