Post # 1
I am doing two different styles of floor-length bridesmaid dresses. I have seen both in person and both are well- made and I think are both of similar pretty good quality and re-wearability. Problem is, one is $70 and the other is $120.
How should I tackle this?
I’m thinking either (1) have all the girls pay for whichever dress they get, because I don’t think that $70 or $120 is insane for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. Problem I see here is that asking half to pay nearly twice as much as the others doesn’t seem fair
or (2) have each girl give me $95 (avg cost) and use that money to pay for all Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. This will even the costs out for the BMs, but is this unfair to the girls getting the cheaper dress? I think the dresses are of comparable quality
Other suggestions welcome as well!
Post # 2
are you letting them choose which dress they want, or assigning? If you’re assigning them, I think the fairest thing would be for you to pay the difference for the girls buying the more expensive dress (but I agree, I think those are very reasonable prices for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses).
Post # 3
I don’t know how many BMs your planning on having, but here’s what I would do. I would offer to pay the different for the BMs who would be wearing the more expensive dress. ($50 for each Bridesmaid or Best Man wearing the $120 dress.) I know I’d be irritated as a Bridesmaid or Best Man if the bride arbitrarily picked a dress that was $50 more expensive for half of us to wear.
Post # 4
I would either have them all wear the $70 dress or let them know the price of each dress and let them choose which one they want to wear.
Post # 5
I think the best option would be for you to buy all of the dresses for them (not sure how many bridesmaids you have or if it’s possible within your budget), but a second best would be to subsidize the cost for the girls with the more expensive dresses as others had mentioned.
Also, can I ask where you found these dresses? I’d love to stay in that price point!
Post # 6
I say give them the option. Personally, I wouldn’t care if I spent more on a dress than another Bridesmaid or Best Man if I felt good in it and I hate getting dragged down by other people’s budgets. I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my SIL’s wedding and her other sister had NO money so we got stuck wearing the most atrocious summer maxi dress thing. Since I’m tall “5’10”) it didn’t sit on my right… It was like at above my ankles but it draped ont hje floor for her, lol.
I took it off after the ceremony and pictures. I’ll let you stuff me in whatever you wahnt, but the second I can get out of it you bet your butt I’m doing so.
Post # 7
Did you ask them their budgets? You say that you dont think its an unrealistic costs, but it doesnt sound like you checked with each of them?
I’d either a) give them the option knowing the prices or b) just pick the cheaper dress.
Post # 8
Option 1. Assigned dresses: you pay.
Option 2. Let them choose: they pay.
Option 3. Let them choose, but they only have to pay $70 and you cover the difference.
Option 4. They all decide on and buy the same dress: they pay.
I chose 6 dresses and I let my girls choose which ones they wanted: some were on sale for $50 and some were $120. It was up to them as long as it was one of the approved dresses (pick out by Fiance and I)
Post # 9
Azazie has a huge variety of styles and colors, most of which are in the $100-$150 range. https://www.azazie.com/
I did a lot of research on them and sounds like most everyone had very positive experiences with them. Here’s a thread on them: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/has-anyone-heard-of-azazie/
Lulus has severeal good options as well, in the $60-$100 range. https://www.lulus.com/categories/2042_433/bridesmaid-dresses.html
These are both online only, but I’ve had good luck online shopping so it was only natural to find Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses this way. Just make sure you know return policies etc before you buy and you should be all set! Good luck 🙂
Post # 10
I originally talked to all of them about a $120-$150 budget and all were ok with it!
Post # 11
Thanks all for the suggestions, I think I may have three BMs wear the $70 and two wear the $120, with the Maid/Matron of Honor in a completey different dress (she’s my sister and will wear anything I ask her to haha). I think I will let them each pick and will pay the $50 difference for the two who choose the $120 dress.