Post # 1
I’m having a battle with myself about the length that my bridesmaids’ dresses should be…we’re having a outdoor garden wedding in late Sept. 2010.
Pros: They will be more appropriate for the time of year, as the end of September might be chilly – I don’t want them to be uncomfortable.
Cons: I know my bridesmaids will never wear a long formal gown again…none of them are fancy people who go to balls or anything. I think a long gown may be too formal for our outdoor gardeny wedding that will have a more informal feel to it. My youngest bridesmaid will be 15 and my oldest will be 24 so I don’t want the long gowns to make them look matronly.
Pros: They are waaaay cuter than long gowns – it is important to me that my bridesmaids look and feel beautiful on my wedding day. Plus, I know that they will wear the dresses again in the future. The short dress will go more with the whole informal garden feel of the wedding.
Cons: They may be inappropriate for the time of year due to their legs being exposed to the elements.
Sooo should I trade practicality for fashion…or fashion for practicality? Is there a compromise between the two? I personally would suffer a bit and be cold in the name of a cute dress and cute shoes that I could show off, but I don’t want to force them to do so.
I’m planning on asking them their opinions…but I wanted to get some ideas from you all!
Post # 3
I personally would ask my brides maids.
You could let them choose their own dress, in your color…
You could get them cute long dresses that could easily be altered into a shorter length dress, probably at a minimal cost.
Post # 4
What about a tea length dress?
Here’s one from Dessy
Post # 5
I picked a long gown and love it! The girls love it too. It just really depends on what you and they like. My girls are already planning on having the dress altered after the wedding to a shorter version. Also something to think about…… I’ve been in 3 weddings where the dress was short and I never wore any of those again either……. but maybe that’s just me! I’m sure you guys will figure out something that works for you! Good luck!!
Post # 6
Yeah, if you’re worried about the weather, I think you’ll need to ask the girls. But if your ceremony is short, I don’t know that it would be that big of a deal. Ultimately it sounds like, you prefer the shorter dress. And I would say, I wouldn’t think the end of September would be that bad in Philly.
Post # 7
I’ve worn Cocktail Dresses in January before (granted, I live in Texas, but it gets down in the 20s), maybe you could give them a Pashmina or Shawl?
Post # 8
Our wedding was held in mid October and my bridesmore knee length dresses from J.Crew. I loved the way they looked and they have all already worn them again since the wedding! i personally think that a long dress is very formal unless you pick a light fabric like cotton but that’s not really appropriate for fall. If you do decide on a long dress, a dark color like navy or black with be your best bet if you are planning on them wearing the dress again. Here’s a recap of all the wedding details:
Post # 9
I think a tea length or knee length dress would be fine, especially for a garden wedding. You could accessorize with pashminas or cardigans (which feel much more garden-appropriate to me) to keep them warm, and your girls will be both cute AND warm!
Good luck! I hope you’ll let us know what you decide!
Post # 10
First of all, welcome to the hive!
I would ask my BMs their preference, but based on the pros and cons you listed, it seems like you personally prefer shorter dresses, so go with what makes you happy. Plus, you’ll have the option of knee and tea length dresses. If you decide that you do want long dresses, maybe you can choose one that can easily be altered after the wedding to a shorter dress that your BMs would wear again. Can’t wait to hear what you decide and see what dresses you end up choosing!
Post # 11
Oh gosh. Don’t hate me, but I just want to throw this thought out there…. most times, the bridesmaid dress doesn’t get worn again. No matter what ANYONE tells you. Yes, there are those of us that were kind enough to put our bridesmaids in a black cocktail dress, but if you want to do anything more than that, you are probably going to just be driving yourself nuts.
Just go with the dresses you want them to wear. What is your TOP choice? Just do that. They are your friends, so they should understand that they are supposed to wear something (and payfor something) they will probably never wear again. 🙂
I’m just saying this to you because, I see myself in your question, and I remember how much this aspect of the wedding drove me crazy. Seriously, don’t drive yourself crazy. Go with the ones you like, and then let them deal.
Post # 12
I’ve been in a few weddings, and the one dress I’ve never worn again was a long one…
I have been lucky in that the other brides got us dresses we COULD wear again, and I’ve worn them multiple times! One was a navy beach dress from JCrew for a beach wedding (I’m sad they no longer have the same style bc it was perfect and I’m searching for bridesmaids dresses now!) and the other was a little black halter dress we all picked out at a department store. That said, I’m in a wedding this summer with a tea-length dress, but it’s light green, so not sure yet whether that will be wearable again. What color are you thinking?
Post # 13
My color scheme is jewel tones aka "peacock colors" as I say..so it would be like deep blues, jade greens, and jewely purples. But for the actual dress color I was going to go with the blue because I feel like blue is a universally good color on everyone. And blue can be dressed up or down if the girls want to wear the dress in the future (which I hope they will!)