(Closed) Bridesmaids’ dresses…Practicality vs. Fashion

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I personally would ask my brides maids. 

You could let them choose their own dress, in your color…


You could get them cute long dresses that could easily be altered into a shorter length dress, probably at a minimal cost.

Good Luck!

Post # 4
2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

What about a tea length dress? 

Dessy Bridesmaid Style 2729

Here’s one from Dessy

Post # 5
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I picked a long gown and love it!  The girls love it too.  It just really depends on what you and they like.  My girls are already planning on having the dress altered after the wedding to a shorter version.  Also something to think about…… I’ve been in 3 weddings where the dress was short and I never wore any of those again either……. but maybe that’s just me!  I’m sure you guys will figure out something that works for you! Good luck!!

Post # 6
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Yeah, if you’re worried about the weather, I think you’ll need to ask the girls.  But if your ceremony is short, I don’t know that it would be that big of a deal.  Ultimately it sounds like, you prefer the shorter dress.  And I would say, I wouldn’t think the end of September would be that bad in Philly.

Post # 7
45 posts
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’ve worn Cocktail Dresses in January before (granted, I live in Texas, but it gets down in the 20s), maybe you could give them a Pashmina or Shawl? 

Post # 8
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Our wedding was held in mid October and my bridesmore knee length dresses from J.Crew. I loved the way they looked and they have all already worn them again since the wedding! i personally think that a long dress is very formal unless you pick a light fabric like cotton but that’s not really appropriate for fall. If you do decide on a long dress, a dark color like navy or black with be your best bet if you are planning on them wearing the dress again. Here’s a recap of all the wedding details:


Post # 9
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think a tea length or knee length dress would be fine, especially for a garden wedding. You could accessorize with pashminas or cardigans (which feel much more garden-appropriate to me) to keep them warm, and your girls will be both cute AND warm!

Good luck! I hope you’ll let us know what you decide!

Post # 10
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

First of all, welcome to the hive!

I would ask my BMs their preference, but based on the pros and cons you listed, it seems like you personally prefer shorter dresses, so go with what makes you happy.  Plus, you’ll have the option of knee and tea length dresses.  If you decide that you do want long dresses, maybe you can choose one that can easily be altered after the wedding to a shorter dress that your BMs would wear again.  Can’t wait to hear what you decide and see what dresses you end up choosing!

Post # 11
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Oh gosh. Don’t hate me, but I just want to throw this thought out there…. most times, the bridesmaid dress doesn’t get worn again. No matter what ANYONE tells you. Yes, there are those of us that were kind enough to put our bridesmaids in a black cocktail dress, but if you want to do anything more than that, you are probably going to just be driving yourself nuts.

 Just go with the dresses you want them to wear. What is your TOP choice? Just do that. They are your friends, so they should understand that they are supposed to wear something (and payfor something) they will probably never wear again. 🙂

 I’m just saying this to you because, I see myself in your question, and I remember how much this aspect of the wedding drove me crazy. Seriously, don’t drive yourself crazy. Go with the ones you like, and then let them deal. 

Post # 12
21 posts
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’ve been in a few weddings, and the one dress I’ve never worn again was a long one…

I have been lucky in that the other brides got us dresses we COULD wear again, and I’ve worn them multiple times! One was a navy beach dress from JCrew for a beach wedding (I’m sad they no longer have the same style bc it was perfect and I’m searching for bridesmaids dresses now!) and the other was a little black halter dress we all picked out at a department store. That said, I’m in a wedding this summer with a tea-length dress, but it’s light green, so not sure yet whether that will be wearable again. What color are you thinking?

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