(Closed) Bridesmaids expectations?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have found that in almost every situation, any expectations you have of other people lead to disappointment. 

This was no exception to my bridesmaids.  I love them all dearly. 

No one cares as much about your wedding as you do, I learned that the hard way. 

In the end if you’re married to your fiance, then I’d consider the day a success. 

Post # 5
Member
2809 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

my expectations are small:

  • be present at the shower and any wedding events (rehearsal dinner, rehearsal, wedding, reception, etc)
  • wear what has been chosen (they will have input on choosing their dresses, they can wear whatever shoes that they want, i’ll provide jewelry and things)
  • assist in some wedding projects on the weekend of the wedding (setting up flowers and tables and such, probably)

i don’t need them to do all kinds of parties. i don’t need a bachelorette. i don’t need them to come to 5792 appointments with me. i don’t need them to have professional hair and makeup, unless they want it and are going to pay for their own (they’re both good at doing their own hair and makeup, i’m not all that worried). i’m a hands on bride, but i don’t expect hands on bridesmaids.

Post # 7
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2809 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@baroness:  my girls are two different age groups, heights, body shapes/types, and body sizes, not to mention they have completely different personalities. therefore, i gave them input. i chose a couple that i liked before we even went shopping. i then went shopping with my MOH, and she liked one dress more than any of the others. so i went back with my bridesmaid and she liked it too. so if we end up going with that dress, it’s a done deal.

i don’t feel like i should have control over what they wear. i mean, yes, i chose dresses i liked. and then they chose from the ones i liked. but they’re individuals, and i want them to be comfortable. plus, they’re paying for their dresses. so i gave them the chance to “choose”. it only made sense. i’ve been in weddings/to weddings where there was no choice given, and the bridesmaids looked miserable. i’d rather them be comfortable. know what i mean?

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