Post # 1
So, in my opinion I don’t have many bridesmaids and I also have very few to choose from. Kinda bugs me but whatever….
My problem is that I haven’t asked any of them just yet.
I’m having a super difficult time getting them together. I also have no idea how to ask them. I keep convincing myself that whatever idea I come up with isn’t good enough.
I want to ask them all together. How can I get them together with the reason still being a surprise? How can I make it seem important enough to make the time…and make it special for them.
Post # 3
Why are you worried about making it so special (not to be snarky, just curious…) I just texted or called mine lol. Do you all live locally? Could you just seet up a girls night and ask them then?
Post # 4
I only have two bridesmaids, i called both of them right after Fiance propsed and told them the news, and said you better be bridesmaid! they both squealed like little girls and said of course. I don’t think it has to be a big production, your girls will be excited regardless.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I initally wanted to ask all of mine together and they do all live in the same town but it didn’t work out. In the end I was glad I asked each one separately because it gave us time together to share in the excitement! Plus I got to see and share that excitement five times!! I gave each maid a “Will You be my Bridesmaid?” Ring pop proposal box (see my DIY section) and they loved it. Most of them cried and jumped up and down. It was so fun.
I wouldn’t worry about it. Just do something you think is fun and go for it!
Post # 6
I wouldn’t worry about getting them all together. If you ask each girl separately you have an opportunity for some great one on one talk.
You also will avoid putting anyone on the spot if they really can’t do it for any reason.
Post # 7
Have you ever heard the phrase, “The perfect is the enemy of the good”? Don’t make yourself crazy by overthinking it. Just ask them! If you can get them together and ask them over dinner (pour some wine and make a toast!) that’s great, but if not just give each of them a phone call 😀 You can always do the get together as a celebratory thing afterwards.
Despite how it looks on Weddingbee, most people don’t come up with an elaborate plan or gift to “propose” to the bridesmaids.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Asking them doesn’t have to be a big event. Just ask whenever you happen to see them seperately.
Post # 9
I asked them individually. It never crossed my mind to consider asking them all at once. I just took them out for dinner separately (except for the one who lives an ocean away; I called her).
Post # 10
I just called my girls up and asked them. No muss, no fuss! Wedding planning is complicated enough so I kept things as simple as possible.
Post # 11
I asked them invidividually over the phone. Would never have even thought to try to get them together – that wouldn’t have worked anyway since they live in different places. It doesn’t need to be any big deal. I did a cute little card with pictures of us to ask my maid of honor, but that was mostly just because I wanted to do a cute wedding craft!
Post # 12
@Principessa Bunny: Don’t ask them all at the same time! All sorts of things can go wrong if you do, e.g. if one or more can’t or doesn’t want to; and either (a) says no and puts a downer on it, or (b) says yes even though she doesn’t want to.
Ask them individually. Either meet up or ask them on the phone. Certainly doing it in person is more personal if you can manage it.
Post # 13
When did this trend of making a big whoop of asking BMs start? What happened to a phone call or simple lunch date?
Post # 14
I made them those little Bridesmaid or Best Man boxes I saw on Pinterest. I was able to deliver three in person but because I was on a road trip. All my BMs live in different states (4!) and not my current state. The first day they’ll all be together is on my wedding day
Post # 15
@paula1248: I see your point. I guess I just had this idea of a beautiful brunch and and asking them there…I was thinking of doing the ring pop proposal, lol.
Thanks for the advice.
Post # 16
@bklynbridetobe: Not really a big whoop…I think a brunch/lunch date is nice or inviting them over for drinks… nothing too out of the ordinary but I wouldn’t do it over the phone unless she didn’t live in the same city as me. It’s just not me.