Post # 1
Are you supposed to buy the same number of gifts for everyone in your wedding party or do the Maid/Matron of Honor (and best man, for that manner) tend to get an extra gift. My Maid/Matron of Honor has been exceptional and has really gone above and beyond. I’d like to give her a little something extra but don’t want to offend any one else. Any one know the rule about this?
Post # 3
I don’t know the etiquette on this one, but I gave the same gift across the board to everybody.
Post # 4
@SapphireSun: That was my original plan. My Maid/Matron of Honor ended up paying for the majority of the bachelorette party, which wasn’t cheap. I just wanted to show my gratitude. Maybe I will just send her a thank you card with a gift card or something and then just give them all the same gifts at the wedding to keep from hurting any feelings.
Post # 5
I gave the same gift. If you do give extra, I would recommend doing it privately.
Post # 6
Etiquette Snob here (comes with my career)
First and foremost… the gifts are meant to be BOTH Thank Yous and Personal
They should NEVER be something meant for the Wedding… something you want them to have / wear (such as shoes, earrings, purse, etc)
And they should not be matchy-matchy (so not everyone gets the same pair of earrings)
The gifts are meant to be chosen as a very personal thank you so each gift is chosen with love and care
Generally speaking it is a good idea to spend the same amount on each person… as no doubt the girls are gonna share what you got them with each other… OR more so if you choose to do this presenting in public vs privately
These gifts are more often presented at either the Bridal Luncheon (an event hosted by the Bride for her Bridesmaids) OR at the Rehearsal Dinner
Personally, I like Bridal Lunches… waaaay more fun. And not quite as embarrassing as putting your loved ones on the spot to show off their gifts (I am old school in this, I don’t think that gifts should be opened in public… if there are attendees who won’t be getting a present as well)
So to answer your Question.
I’d have a Bridal Luncheon. Give everyone their special Thank You Gifts (similar value).
AND if you want to do something extra for some one do it one-on-one in another setting… “Thanks for everything, and going the extra mile”
Hope this helps,
Post # 7
Originally I planned to get all 7 of my girls the same gift BUT my Maid/Matron of Honor and my other best friend really went over the top for my bridal shower and did a lot more of the work and planning than the other girls did. SO, I went last night and got the BFF a Sephora gift card and got my Maid/Matron of Honor a matching ring to the necklace and earrings I got for everyone else.