(Closed) bridesmaids gift etiquette

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t know the etiquette on this one, but I gave the same gift across the board to everybody.

Post # 5
3120 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I gave the same gift.  If you do give extra, I would recommend doing it privately.

Post # 6
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here (comes with my career)

First and foremost… the gifts are meant to be BOTH Thank Yous and Personal


They should NEVER be something meant for the Wedding… something you want them to have / wear (such as shoes, earrings, purse, etc)

And they should not be matchy-matchy (so not everyone gets the same pair of earrings)

The gifts are meant to be chosen as a very personal thank you so each gift is chosen with love and care

Generally speaking it is a good idea to spend the same amount on each person… as no doubt the girls are gonna share what you got them with each other… OR more so if you choose to do this presenting in public vs privately

These gifts are more often presented at either the Bridal Luncheon (an event hosted by the Bride for her Bridesmaids) OR at the Rehearsal Dinner

Personally, I like Bridal Lunches… waaaay more fun.  And not quite as embarrassing as putting your loved ones on the spot to show off their gifts (I am old school in this, I don’t think that gifts should be opened in public… if there are attendees who won’t be getting a present as well)

So to answer your Question.

I’d have a Bridal Luncheon.  Give everyone their special Thank You Gifts (similar value).

AND if you want to do something extra for some one do it one-on-one in another setting… “Thanks for everything, and going the extra mile”

Hope this helps,


Post # 7
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Originally I planned to get all 7 of my girls the same gift BUT my Maid/Matron of Honor and my other best friend really went over the top for my bridal shower and did a lot more of the work and planning than the other girls did. SO, I went last night and got the BFF a Sephora gift card and got my Maid/Matron of Honor a matching ring to the necklace and earrings I got for everyone else.

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