(Closed) Bridesmaids Gifts

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with your friend. Buying your bridesmaids gifts to wear on your wedding day are just as much for the bride as they are for the bridesmaids. Unless the jewelry is all unique and based on their tastes I just don’t see how that is a “gift”. Same goes for clutches, wraps, shoes, whatever.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

@LGenz: I agree with this.

I got my girls earrings to wear on the wedding day but they don’t match everyone’s personal style so I also got the items almost all women use. I got them body lotions, shower gels, hand scrubs, body spray, and some scented candles. So there is technically something for me and something for them. If brides gift something to wear in the wedding, I think it is nice to throw in a little something extra to say, “thank you”.

Post # 5
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3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh no! I got my girls monogrammed robes. I totally thought that qualified as a gift? err

Post # 6
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3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

But I guess my bridesmaids didn’t throw me a bachelorette party or a bridal shower, so it’s not that big of a deal?

Post # 7
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199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think they’re fine if it’s something you know she’ll actually use again. (My best Bridesmaid or Best Man gift ever were coach wristlets that we all carried the day of the wedding. I still use mine all the time!) And I still think that day-of gear/services shouldn’t be her ONLY gift. Put a little more thought than that into it and give her something that reflects her personality, even if it’s just something small.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I prefer to give and receive lasting gifts such as jewelry- chosen for them as a gift- not something to wear in the wedding.

I want them to have something that, each time they wear it, reminds them of being my Bridesmaid or Best Man.

I don’t want to give them a gift that they will use up in a few weeks.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I opted to get them several things..some for the wedding, some not:

 

1. personalized name hanger

2. small monogrammed tote bags (in their fave colors, not wedding colors)

3. jewelry for the wedding day (yes they all match but they got to pick their own black dresses)

4. a flower pin for their dresses or put in their hair to make them a bit cohesive

5. flip flops (technically not a gift, i got these as favors but pulled each girl one of their size to give them in advance)

6. coach clutches (to match their individual tastes)

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I struggled a lot with what to get my BM’s because I know weddings are expensive so I wanted to off-set the cost by paying for hair but I wasn’t happy with that because after the day and a good wash, it is gone.  Ultimately, I decided to get the girls lasting gifts, things I would love myself…hopefully I know my girls enough to know they’ll love them just the same. I did buy them all earrings but it was just to have something to put in a jewelery box I bought each of them. They were $1.99 on etsy and I honestly don’t even care if they wear them.  Having been a bridesmaid several times, I can definitely say it means much more to get something that lasts.  A Coach wristlet was one of the best gifts I’ve received. And if you get it at an outlet with a sale, they’re actually an awesome, cheap gift.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

Who doesn’t wear robes? I think that’s silly to think it can’t ever be used again.

I think brides today are being way more creative than ever in the Bridesmaid or Best Man gift department. I’m happy that the days are gone when everyone got a matching necklace,earrings and bracelet to wear, that were usually something cheap and gaudy.

Post # 12
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think it depends. My friend got us a clutch to match our dresses, but picked us each out different ones that match our style. So yes, it looks good in pictures b/c they were all the same color, but she knew we’d like it and use it again.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t wear robes either. I agree with your friend. Things used on the wedding day- are not “gifts”.

I’m getting my girls the jewlery, purses, flip flops and robes for the wedding. These however are not their gifts.

They’re gifts are makeup for 1, bikini for 2 and gift card for 3. Each of them will also get a mini photobook of the wedding. Each gift was personally seletected with their individual tastes considered.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

If it’s more for the brides benefit than the bridesmaids, it’s not a good gift. The bridesmaids don’t want those cutesie robe pictures taken, the bride does. I don’t so much mind the clutch as a gift as long as it fits the ‘maids personality but when you start getting all matchy matchy with a color that your girls will probably never again wear, it’s kinda… meh.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree that wedding-related items do not count as gifts, or at least they should not be the only gift. I paid for my BMs to have their hair done on the wedding day, and I also bought each one a gift.

They didn’t have matching clutches or matching jewelry, but they each received a completely different, personal gift that they loved.

 

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