Post # 32
I got my girls black cardigans that they can wear if it’s chilly. They are by no means obligated to wear them at the wedding and I think they’ll like and get plenty of use out of them after because who doesn’t love a black cardigan?
I also got them some small non-wedding related goodies.
I think if a bride gives her girls something in one of her wedding colors and it’s not a color her girls really care for, then I’d definitely say it’s more for the bride than the Bridesmaid or Best Man. I think in general, monogrammed things would get used again, but I’m not a fan (no offense to anyone) of the robes/tank tops/bags that say “Bridesmaid” on them.
Post # 33
I went the traditional jewelry route so that they weren’t going crazy tryng to find something to wear with their dresses — and hopefully it’s classic enough that they can be reused (pearls). Also went the Coach wristlet route.
Receiving a robe wouldn’t bother me as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but I do have one I already love so I wouldn’t need another one (I’m not one to keep multiples of such bulky items, LOL).
Post # 34
I think its a gift regardless of whether they use it on the day or not BUT the whole point is if you are buying them a gift that they have to wear on the day of the wedding its more of a gift for yourself because its part of your bridal party vision for your wedding rather than a thoughtful gift for them to use after the wedding is over.
Post # 35
I’m pretty sure every single person here would say “thank you” to anything she recived. But that doesn’t mean she’s not allowed to think in the comfort of her own mind that these are self serving gifts.
Post # 36
If it matches only the wedding and not an everyday style than I don’t think that as a bridesmaid my thanks was being thought of rather the bride trying to complete her vision. I would appreciate not having to pay for the items and I wouldn’t be bothered by it, because I am not a bridesmaid for a gift, but that gift wouldn’t portray a thank you like a practical and personal item would. If it is something that if very rewearable and the bridesmaids style then it would be a different case.
Post # 37
@hollygowedding: oooh where do you get coach cluthches that arent too expensive? hat would be good for a few of my BMs
Post # 38
@bee_elle: where do you get coach clutches that arent too pricey for the girls? I’m paying for their hair, which is part of their gift and i’m on a budget, but i want to get them something else that isnt just for the wedding day!
Post # 39
I feel the same as your Maid/Matron of Honor… when the gift finishes off the outfit or is a photo prop, it isn’t personal and you didn’t choose it to fit their personalities… it isn’t so much a gift for them to thank them for everything they’ve done, if it’s not something you think they’d actually like… I did the jewelry as PART of their gift because it was unconventional and not bridal, and I’ve seen pictures afterwards of them wearing it on FB (so that made my day) but the rest of their gifts had nothing to do with the wedding 🙂
Post # 40
@Ames8330: If you have a Coach outlet nearby, they sell them at a pretty deep discount. I recieved one as a Bridesmaid or Best Man gift a few years ago and I think she spent $30-$40 on it.
Post # 41
Well, I think the clutch is something that the bride bought for herself more than for the Bridesmaid or Best Man.
I got my girls all pashminas to wear the night of the wedding when it got chilly, but I knew that they would all wear it again.
I don’t want you to take this the wrong way, but I don’t think that BMs are guaranteed gifts, and she should be happy she’s getting something. I really mean that in the nicest way possible 🙂
Post # 42
I think keepsake jewelry is a pretty unique gift. I got a gift certificate from from the bride to isis keepsake jewelry so I could have my flowers made into a flower petal bracelet. I chose the style I liked and I wear it alot. Their prices were reasonable. And the bride had her wedding bouquet made into a rosary. It’s beautiful.
Post # 43
I also think jewelry is a beautiful gift, whether its to be worn at the wedding or not. I’m giving each of my maids an 8 strand freshwater pearl bracelet. The strands can be worn seperately (they’re not attached to one another) or together. So for the wedding they’ll probably wear all 8 strands, and then for future, they can wear 8 strands, 1 strand, 3…whatever they want. Its a gift for the wedding and also a gift for any other occasion and I know they’ll definitely wear them again.
I’m also getting them a cute tote from Vera Bradley that’s monogrammed with their initials and I’ll load it up with other stuff (nail polish – the color they’ll wear for the wedding, maybe some chocolates, bath products, other items to pamper themselves etc.).
I do think its nice to get your girls something practical that they can use again, but I definitely think jewelry counts as one of those things.