Post # 1
I know that it varies significantly but on average, how much should I be spending on my bridesmaids gifts? I was thinking about doing “gift totes” (likely the small llbean totes) with a few humorous/cutesey things and one nice gift (perhaps a piece of jewlery to wear for the wedding). I’m just a bit confused on what is expected/the norm? I’m not a wealthy bride (my overall budget is about $15,000) but also want to do something really nice for the girls.
Ideas? Thoughts? Thanks everyone!
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
My budget is similar to yours and I’m spending around $75 on Maid/Matron of Honor and $50 on everyone else.
Post # 4
I made robes for them and paid for massages for them. I also bought them jewelry for the wedding, but I don’t consider that really a “gift” since they’re expected to wear it at the wedding.
Our budget was quite a bit less than yours… about half, approximately.
Post # 5
There’s no set amount you should spend. My favorite Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts are always the notes that I get telling me what a wonderful friend I am. 🙂 I would just get them what you can afford that is nice and that you think they’ll enjoy. They don’t all have to get the same thing, either — maybe they won’t all like the same piece of jewelry?
Post # 6
I spent a good bit on them. I bought them gold jewelry and some other personalized things (on top of paying for hair and a portion of their dresses).
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
We didn’t have a very big budget ($5000-$7000) and I made all of my BMs custom wire hangers (approx. $18 a piece if purchased) and bought a cool shirt for my bridesman (he’s a chemistry student and into heavy metal music so I got him this). I would have liked to give them more, but we didn’t really have the money for it. I never asked them to spend much money for the wedding though. They didn’t buy us presents and their dresses were only $80 each (they could have cost even less if they’d actually given any input on them like I asked though). I don’t think it’s the amount that matters as much as the thought behind it.
Post # 8
I only spent $30 on each of them, but I got a lot for the money thanks to deals! The each get a slightly different pearl pendant, a tote bag, a t-shirt, and a customized hanger that I made 🙂
There is no standard, but I would just go with something that they would like and that you can afford.
Post # 9
@s21flowers: I think you are expected to spend an amount that reflects the expenses you are asking of your girls. So if you expected them to get a $500 designer dress, hair, makeup and cover an elaborate bachelorette weekend, then giving them a $20 gift is not going to cut it.
If your girls have no expenses for the wedding, then as long as it suits their tastes or is something they would like, cost doesn’t matter.
Post # 10
I think the best gifts are something a little personal and something they can great use out of. My daughter got each girl a Plum Pretty Sugar robe in a different print. They were all different and still beautiful. They were great because its something pretty for photos as well as they can use it long term. You can also add a photo of you and your girls and note to go along with everything.
Post # 11
I went crazy with gift for my girls but I read in a number of places that you should spend on each girl at least what they spent to be in the wedding, including dress, travel, hotel, ect. However, these girls are your friends/family so if you don’t have a lot to spend I’m sure they’ll understand. Give them something heartfelt and meaningful and I’m sure they’ll be more than happy!!