Post # 1
I know being a bridesmaid can be expensive…
I decided right away that I would pay for my bridesmaids hair for the wedding. At first I wasn’t going to include this as part of the gift, but the closer I get to the wedding, the more I realize that I can’t afford a whole lot more for them. I’m thinking of making a fascinator for each of them and maybe a pair of earrings to match their dresses? Would it be better to get them something that’s not wedding related?
I’ve never been a bridesmaid, so I’m not sure what’s typical.
What do you think?
Post # 3
i wouldn’t consider anything that you wear in a wedding a gift, that is more of something for you.
Post # 4
I think it’s more than enough to pay for their hair and get them earrings. I got my girls a necklace they can wear for the wedding and $5 flip flops for the reception… =)
If I were a bridesmaid I wouldn’t expect to get anything…
Post # 5
@Klb5882: agreed a dress of the BRIDES choosing is NOT a gift for the maid. you should get them an un wedding related gift.
Post # 6
i think it should be something heartfelt and non-wedding related. Understood if you can’t afford much more, but you can write them a personal note thanking them for sharing in the day try to think of something personal for them. Maybe make them a pair of earrings and if you’re crafty, make another pair or necklace, or bracelet that reflects their personality and style. Sorry to say, but paying for their hair, while it’s an investment on your part, is a gift for you, not them.
Post # 7
We’re paying for their makeup and a necklace for the day of, and that is coming in at about $75/each…i might throw in a small bottle of wine…but thats it.
I think you’re good!
Post # 8
You don’t have to because what you have would probably be great but I think you should look into something non-wedding related to see if it would work. I also don’t feel paying for hair is considered a gift. What about something personal? We got all of our wedding party different gifts.
Post # 9
i paid for their bridesmaid dresses, which i know is untraditional, but it’s a cultural thing for my folks. i was going to consider that my gift to them (dresses weren’t cheap either), but then previous posters said stuff worn in a wedding isn’t a gift… crap!
so do i now need to get them something non-wedding related?
Post # 10
the best Bridesmaid or Best Man gift I ever got were two make up bags from pottery barn that were monogramed. I have used them EVERY DAY since and it has been 3+ years. Vera Bradley has similar ones that don’t have monograms and have pretty patterns, they aren’t ones you carry with you but you keep at home or travel with
These aren’t the exact ones but
They have similar ones everywhere even DB.
Post # 11
I’ve just had in my mindset that bridesmaids dresses/hair is part of my wedding budget, then I’ll get them a gift on top of that, something around $100 each. my wedding isn’t going to be huge and I’m a graduate student so I definitely am not loaded, but this is something that I think is really important in my particular wedding and among my friends? if you don’t think your groups are going to be gift-givers, then play it by ear? in my area it is just customary to give your party a gift and thank them for supporting you that sort of way.
Post # 12
@GeorgiaTeacup: I think that paying for their dreeses is an exception to the rule, sonce obviously bridesmaid dresses are a mandatory thng they would of had to buy themselves. Jewelry, hair, shoes, etc., does not count as a gift because your bridesmaids are not required to have matching jewelry or professionaly done hair, and paying for these things isn’t really a gift to them since you’re doing it to benefit the overall look of your wedding.
Post # 13
@bookworm88: taking care of the bridesmaids’ dresses and hair, and a $100 gift to each on top of that is being reeeeeeeeally generous. your bridesmaids are really going to feel the love.
Post # 14
I don’t understand when people say if you buy things for the BMs for the wedding it’s not a gift. Sure, they may be only wearing their dress or getting their hair done for the wedding, but it is still something they would otherwise have had to pay for that they don’t anymore! That being said, something tangible that they can wear like jewelry is always a nice touch to a gift.
Post # 15
I have been in quite a few weddings and I have always been given jewelry and something small that is personal. I think it all depends on where you are from what the gifts typically are. Personally I am giving my girls the jewelry and shoes that they will be wearing and something tiny for each of them as a personal gift.
Post # 16
Paying for makeup and hair is NOT required on the BM’s part. If the bride requests it she should pay. IF the Bridesmaid or Best Man would LIKE it she should pay. It benefits the bride not the Bridesmaid or Best Man it is what the bride wants not what the Bridesmaid or Best Man wants that’s why it’s not a “gift” in reality you’re doing it for yourself.
That said my Bridesmaid or Best Man has asked for me to pay for her makeup and to not recieve any gift. At first I didn’t want to but then she specifically said that could be my “gift” to her and she would appriciate it just as much as something else I bought her. I did agree to that but wouldn’t dream of doing it for my other BM’s.