(Closed) Bridesmaids Gifts–Important Question!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4062 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I say get all the bridesmaids the same gift – I don’t think wanting to celebrate her birthday is an offense at all. 

The other two I would write nice thank you cards but I don’t think you need to get them a gift

Post # 5
1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think you should get all the BMs the same gifts, to thank them for supporting you at the wedding. Otherwise the 2 girls might feel like they are being punished.


I do agree with you that it’s a bit of a shame she didn’t come to your shower due to her birthday, but leaving her out of the bracelet gifts might come across as sort of a bit revengeful (is that a word?), whereas you want to take the high road and treat them all the same.


The ones who are not in your bridal party, I don’t think you need to get gifts. Just thank you cards as PP said.








Post # 6
1341 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@thelittlespoon:  I think that a little obnoxious. The only thing a Bridesmaid or Best Man is required to do is buy the dress and show up to the wedding. Everything else is extra.

Does it suck that your friend could not afford the bach, yes. But how do you think she feels? Probably embarrassed that she could not afford to be there. Being IN a wedding, as an attendent costs about $1000. So, for her not to be able to afford the bach, not everybody’s financial situation is the same.

As far as your friend who’s birthday it was? I did that once. I spent my birthday at my friend’s bach… and not only do I regret doing it, it was one of the worst birthdays I have had, and the bach wasn’t anything special that I felt I should have skipped my birthday for. Could I go back in time, I would have done my birthday instead.

I think it’s selfish of you.

As far as the braclets, if you’re gifts for the BMs, you don’t get them gifts based on what events they did not did not attend, you get them gifts for being in the wedding and being your friend.


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