(Closed) Bridesmaids gifts – is this tacky?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it sounds really nice! You can all be getting different things done, but at the same place – and it gives them something nice but lets them choose.

Post # 4
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think the spa gift card is great as long as you don’t expect or require them to use it on something wedding related.

Post # 5
6824 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree as long as it isn’t expected to be usedfor the wedding the gift card is awesome… Otherwise it is going to come accross is a little demanding, here is a gift card but you have to use it for your hair for my wedding…

Post # 6
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s a bit tacky to “gift” them something that they would be doing for you. It’s like giving someone a really nice chocolate bar, then expecting them to chop it up and put it on your ice cream sundae.  If you really don’t care who does their hair, make their gift completely unrelated, or treat them to massage gift certificates— anything but hair.   I mean, you say they’re college students; they’re not idiots, and they know they’ll need to have their hair done for their roles in your wedding. They’ll either go to your salon on their own, or they’ll go somewhere that’s more in their budget.  By giving them a gift card to the salon where you’re planning to get your hair done and making it part of the wedding prep, you’re sending a message that some might not recieve positively.

Post # 7
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I actually did the exact same thing… paid for the girls hair which was $50.00 each (for 5 girls) but decided in the end since I got them the gift certificates and specifically asked them to be spent on hair, that I’d also like to get them another gift for that day. I ended up finding really reasonably priced personalized compact mirrors on etsy. I really didn’t want their only gift to be something wedding related. 

Post # 8
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think maybe you should either just pay for the hair or, if that’s more than you wanted to spend, get them something else more in your price range.

I do kind of agree that either way, you should also get them a little gift that is not to be used for your wedding.

Post # 10
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it’s great as long as you make it very clear that they don’t need to use it for your wedding and they’re welcome to come hang out at the spa while you get stuff done (if your spa is cool with that).

You know how sometimes you see bridesmaids get necklaces for a gift, and you can tell one or two don’t really dig it, but they’re like, “Oh I’ll wear this with my dress,” because they figure that’s what the bride wants?  I’d hate to see that happen with the spa gift certs, especially since it sounds like they wouldn’t even cover all of what the girls may feel expected to do.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s a lovely gift!  Every girl can use a little pampering now and then, especially on a budget where you can’t afford it for yourself.  But just be careful to present it in a, “Use it whenever you want” way and not a “So now you can get your hair done for my wedding if you want,” way.

Post # 11
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Offer them instead.

Say listen girls I’m so thank blah blah blah I am planning to do/ get you something each for being my girls up there, but I also know that you’re all wanting to get your hair done so I’ll make you an offer and the choice is completely yours: either I can stick with my original plan and do my own thing, or if you’d like I will pay for you hair to be done at X salon, day off.


And then whatever they choose you know it was their best choice. And they will feel less weird saying I’m broke please pay for my hair  😛

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