Post # 1
So I plan on having my own hair and makeup done for my wedding, and I have 4 bridesmaids. I don’t mind either way if they want to have their hair and makeup done or if they don’t, but from just talking to them it seems like most of them will want to get it done. Now, they’ve already paid for their dresses themselves (which I made sure was on the lower end pricewise) and I told them just to wear green shoes of their choosing (which I think most of them will need to purchase)- I feel badly asking them to pay for their own hair and makeup, as most of them are grad students still, when they have already paid for the dress and shoes. I know some people gift their BMs the hair and makeup, but I’m not sure I as a student myself can do that and still get them something in addition, like a wrap or jewelry, as their gift, which I’d like to do. So what do I do? Is it mean to tell them that if they’d like their hair and makeup done they need to pay for it, or should I gift it to them and not get them another gift or get them something really small instead? What do people usually do about this? Thanks for any advice or wisdom you may have to offer!
Post # 3
If you’re not requiring them to get their hair/makeup done, then you definitely don’t need to pay for it. It’s up to them to have it done if they feel that they can afford it. Another option would be to potentially pay for their hair/makeup instead of getting them a gift. I definitely don’t think that BOTH are necessary if it would be a strain on your budget.
I’m not paying for my girls’ hair or makeup. I think they’re all getting their hair done (their own choice), and I think one or two are getting makeup done. I’m getting them nice gifts instead (yet to be decided upon exactly what they will be!).
Post # 4
I think that if you are wanting all of the Bridesmaid or Best Man to have their hair and makeup done then you should be willing to pay for it. If you don’t mind some wearing their hair down or doing their own then it would probably be more appropriate to let everyone take care of their appointments.
Giving hair and makeup isn’t much of a gift to them in my opinion- it’s more of a gift for you. If you decide to pay for their hair I think that getting a small gift as well would be the right thing to do.
Post # 5
My 4 girls asked if I had a preference for their hair and makeup, and I, too, felt badly about asking them to pay for anything further. Plus, I didn’t really care how these four diverse ladies wore their hair or makeup. So, they did it themselves and looked absolutely beautiful.
Post # 6
Since your not making them if they want to get their hair and make up done thats theyre choice and if they cant afford it they can do it themselves. Dont feel bad 🙂
Post # 7
I agree that its their choice – so its not up to you to pay for. I gifted my BM’s their hair and makeup as my “thank you” gift to them. That was just my choice… & my stylist is a friend of mine so she gave me a great deal on my BM’s hair and makeup.
Post # 8
I agree that if it’s their choice..you don’t need to pay for it. That’s the route I am going. I told them that their hair should be down and I am not making them go to a professional for anything, so they are paying for it themselves.
Post # 9
I did the same as you. Found nice but inexpensive dresses, said they could wear whatever shoes they wanted (I didn’t even care about color), and said if they wanted to do hair and makeup, it was going to be $xx. I did search awhile to find affordable hair and makeup people so it wouldn’t be outrageous. Of my 3 BMs, two got their hair and makeup done and the third did that herself. My mom also opted to get her hair and makeup done, but my Mother-In-Law did her own too. Everyone looked amazing. 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks everyone! I’m glad to hear that it’s okay to tell them they don’t have to do it, but if they want to it’s XX amount. I think I will do that, or if at end of planning I have some money left over and they all want it done, add it to the gift. I really don’t care if they have it professionally or not, I know they will all look great!