Post # 1
My daughter has 10 bridemaids! She is not requiring them to wear their hair any particular way. She just wants them to look and feel comfortable and beautiful on the wedding day. My question is who pays for the hair dos if they decide to have their hair professionally done? My daughter has been in many weddings and says she has always paid for her own hair to be done and that bridesmaids really don’t expect the bride to pay their hair stylist. My daughter has already purchased nice gifts for the girls….a monogrammed robe, monogrammed towel, bath soap, earrings for the ceremony, and cute flip flops to slip into for the reception. We are paying for all the girls to spend the night after the rehearsal dinner at a beautiful bed & breakfast inn where we will have the Bridesmaids Breakfast on the morning of the wedding. We are also having lunch delivered to the inn while the girls are getting dressed for the ceremony. My daughter has left it up the girls, they may do their own hair, go to their own hair dresser, or use the hair dresser that we have coming to the inn to do our hair. The bridesmaids paid $100 for their dresses. My question is should we pay for the hair or have we done enough? I want to do the right thing. What do you think?
Post # 3
They each pay for their own hair. If you can spare extra to pay for it that would be awesome, but it’s not expected, especially since the bride isn’t requiring them to have the same hairstyle.
Post # 4
If they are not required to do their hair a certain way, then they can decide to pay for their hair to be done, or do it themselves. If you are requiring a specific hairstyle, then I think it’s considerate for the bride to pay. In your case though, I think the BMs should have the option to pay, or do it themselves.
Post # 5
If the bride is requiring them to have their hair professionally done she pays, if they have a choice of doing it themselves or having it done wherever they want then they pay.
Post # 6
It sounds like you are accomodating the BM’s as much as you can by providinga room at the bed and breakfast inn. If your daughter is letting them pick their own styles, have them pay for it because some may chose to do their own hair in that event.
Post # 7
Sounds like she’s treating her bridesmaids very well! It is perfectly fine to have them pay for their own hair as long as professionally-styled hair is optional.
Post # 8
Most of my bm’s opted to have their hair done for my wedding… not that I am requiring them to do so. I told them they could do their own hair if they wish, that I just wanted it “up.” Because I’m not making it a must… I am not forced to pay for it. If I had the money to do so, I so would though. 🙂
Post # 10
If they are not required to have their hair done professionally, then you/your daughter does not need to pay for it for them.
If they choose to have their done professionally, then they can pay for it 🙂
If your daughter was requiring them to have their hair done professionally, then I would say she should pay for them.
Post # 11
Thanks for the input! I feel better now!