Post # 1
I know it’s sometimes human nature to focus on the downside of things, but did anyone actually have a really awesome set of Bridesmaids/wedding party, a great hen do/bachelorette and end up really touched in general by how many people went to such lengths to show their love for you?!
So many of these posts seem to be about horrendous experiences with BMs being total t*ssers and letting them down/not organising their parties etc. I genuinely feel bad for these people, but I chose my very best friends (and my sister) as my BMs and they totally blew me away, even though one was heavily pregnant and the other just had a baby (she brought her to the hen do!).
I live abroad right now, but got married back home and they helped me SO much – I flew back for a visit and they planned a day wedding dress shopping, they joined Pinterest just to share ideas, they planned a fab hen do which totally showed how well they knew me and loved me and they spent hours helping me make decorations, buying materials, making the bouquets etc.
I am not trying to brag, but I feel so lucky (and yes they know how much I appreciate them). Also, all our guests RSVP’d, the vast majority came to the wedding, even those that live abroad, and we had the most fantastic wedding day surrounded by our favourite people.
I can’t be the only one!! Maybe they were feeling extra fond of me because I was living abroad and they missed me (and I couldn’t be a bridezilla!) but I think these girls would have stepped up no matter what. That is why they are my besties!
Anyone else have a positive experience here?!
Post # 3
That is wonderful, being surrounded with such affectionate people who do eveything so that your day is fantastic is unbelievable !
I am not the bride myself but one of my best friends is getting married in a month and we are having her bacherlotte party next week and i am so looking forward. my besties and i have been planning this for months and we are in the process of finalizing the last details. Hope she will be happy as much as you were 🙂
Post # 4
@meij: Ahh that’s lovely. I suppose I’ve never been the sort to dream of my perfect wedding etc, so maybe my expectations were lower than some brides, but it couldn’t have been a better experience 🙂 I’m sure your bride will love what you’ve done for her.
Post # 5
i haven’t had either my shower or bachelorette party yet but so far my MOH and BM’s have been absolutely wonderful. we looked at dresses for me together, we picked out their dresses, i am in close communication with them all the time, not just about wedding stuff.
the four of us (me, moh, 2 bm) are all very close and everyone gets along fantastically.
i couldn’t have asked for a better group.
i know my shower will be wonderful and my B-party will be a lot of fun.
Post # 6
Me Me Me! I do! 🙂
I have 5 girls in my party and all of them were literally begging me to help with planning, DIY, etc. My MOH is on top of the Shower (for my fam) and the Bach party – which we are holding in late August so all of my BM’s can attend. We also have scheduled out 6-7 ‘DIY Sundays’ where I have a project planned and if the girls can come – they do. They were ectstatic about the idea and I am excited to spend time with them as well as get some help.
My MOH is busy but she still makes time for me when I ask her. She has helped me with soooo much so far – most of it was just helping me organize my thought. Sometimes I just need to talk through an issue to get some perspective on how to solve it.
I also see sooo many FMIL posts on here too. I couldn’t imagine being in any of those Bee’s shoes. My FMIL is so fantastic and so is FSIL. Both worked together to plan the shower for their side of the Family. I didn’t have to do anything at all! They asked me to bring a few things and be ready to speak a little so I can introduce myself to the guests that might not know me well.
FMIL is actually super generous with her time, affection, and otherwise. My FSIL were actually really great friends in HS (its how I met FI); she would have been a bridesmaid (maybe even a co-MOH) had her and her new DH decide to move out of country – and she is heartbroken she won’t be there.
Post # 7
@suburbian: Excellent! That has reminded me I also had lots of other female friends that weren’t part of the wedding party offering to help me with any planning etc.
Maybe it’s because not that many in our social circle have actually got married so it was more of a novelty? Although having said that two of my BMS have been to literally hundreds of weddings so nothing new for them. They were all so excited for me and would randomly email me saying things like – ‘You’re getting married, I CAN’T wait!’ so I know they weren’t faking it!
Post # 8
I have awesome bridesmaids, hands down the best! Thye have been excited for me, tolerant of the dress and shoe finding process, and just very very supportive. They threw me a fantastic bachelorette party last weekend, seriously best time of my life! And they have become good friends, although they didn’t know each other before. We get along so well together, having them as bridesmaids has been the most wonderful experience!
so happy I chose these two girls! I cannot wait to have them by my side on my wedding day!
Post # 9
@PeachSnapple: Mine have also become better friends although they knew each other a bit before. It’s so nice isn’t it seeing them all get on and knowing they are enjoying it and not seeing it as a chore.
Post # 10
@Itsnotmeitsyou: I think we also might come from a social circle that is not drama-infused, educated and has mature social and familial values that keep us from experiancing the horror stories we witness on the bee.
I didn’t come from much, so I can see how I would have easily been in those situations if I didn’t make it a point to elevate my friend circle to a mature group that fits well with my own goals and values. I still have a few friends from that older life that I love dearly but make it a point to create distance so I do not get involved with their issues – and I don’t end up the subject of one as well.
I also knew I couldn’t deal well with FIL’s that I did not get along with. I actually once had to let a *very* serious relationship go for that reason alone. It was cross culteral – I was from the North and he was from the South and while color isn’t really a factor when dating in the military – it definately is when you go to visit his family in the heart of Alabama. His mom made rude side comments to my face, his sisters we also mean and rude. His dad was sweet enough but not to the point where he would regulate the situation. It was hard but I knew that I couln’t live my life trying to battle with FIL’s forever.
I honestly believe that it was all of these choices compounded that lead me to the happiest point in my life – where my support network and extended support network (the FIL’s) is one that only most girls can dream about. I have awesome friends, a loving FI, a great set of FIL’s all at once! – I could burst! 🙂
I have a feeling you may have made choices simliar – or grew up distanced from drama-creating people that exist in Bee Tales.