Bridesmaids help!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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2776 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’m not understanding why no one has contacted the online retailer yet. A simple phone inquiry would answer 90% of the questions you have. They will be able to confirm the orders if they’re in the works. They will also be able to tell you if the dresses won’t be coming. Did they not give you an estimated shipping/delivery date? 

In the event that the dresses won’t be available, you start from the beginning. Look for a similar style from that retailer or another, but certainly don’t wait until a month before your wedding. 

ETA: Or are you saying that you’re wondering whether your bridesmaids even ordered their dresses? When you did you’d decided, I assumed they were ordered. Unfortunately, if one of your bridesmaids didn’t order her dress, you probably will have to start all over. But once again… a quick call or text to all of your bridesmaids would answer this for you. 

Post # 3
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2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Are you trying to say your bridesmaids never ordered their dresses or the shop has not shipped them? It’s a little unclear as to what the problem actually is in your post. 

If you are so afraid of sending a quick “hey, I need a quick progress report for ththe bridesmaids dresses” text then these girls probably aren’t close enough to even be bridesmaids. This qjol issue could be resolved in less than 5 minutes if you would just text/call them. If they didn’t order the dress, find another one and be adamant with them about actually ordering it. If they did order their dresses and the shop has not shipped them, call the retailer and discuss expected shipping dates/refunds. Easy breezy really. 

Post # 4
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690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

Same as above. I am confused, did your Bridesmaids order the dresses and have not recieved them? Have you asked? Or have your Bridesmaids nto even ordered them yet?

If they just havent recieved them, call the company, see whats going on. Did you got recieve tracking information? Most online retailers provide tracking information.

If its that your bridesmaids havent ordered the dersses, well, you’ll have to look for new ones then. You definitely still have loads of time. My wedding is in August and my dresses are beign custom made. The dress maker wont even have them in for a fitting or start to make the dresses until April. 

Also, depending on where the dresses are ordered from. It can take way longer than 2 months to get the dress. For example, if you ordered a dress coming from China, it can take up to 4 months to arrive as they ship by boat. I learned that the hard way with a dress for a halloween costume. I ordered t 10 weeks before halloween and it arrived the after!

Post # 7
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30400 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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iloveyou100 :  Wouldn’t it be more productive to ask them if they ordered their dress as you noticed it’s sold out?

Post # 8
Bee
293 posts
Helper bee

Sorry, just to clarify: have you been asking them if they’ve receieved their dresses, they’re telling you “no,” and you don’t believe them? Have you mentioned it looks like it’s now sold out? What makes you think they might be lying or disinterested?

Post # 9
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2943 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

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iloveyou100 :  “I know if they did order them they would of definitely told me by now.”

Why are you assuming instead of JUST ASKING?

It’s literally as simple as sending a group text: “Hey ladies! I just checked online and it looks like the dress we picked out is no longer on their website so I wanted to confirm whether you guys have or have not ordered your dresses and when you expect them to be in.”

I don’t understand why you think that is “bugging” them?? But then you go on to say that you feel like you keep bugging them… so what  is happening here?? Have you asked them whether they’ve ordered them or not? You are making absolutely no sense…

Post # 11
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5166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I don’t understand how you could be bugging them if you haven’t even bothered to ask if they have ordered the dresses yet. That seems like really basic information. Right now you are getting yourself all worked up about something which is totally in your control.

Post # 12
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4817 posts
Honey bee

Well for what it’s worth, if I told you I was ordering the dress then I would just expect that you would trust me I would order the dress and I wouldn’t need to update you at every stage (i.e. when I get a tracking number, when the tracking number says it’s shipped, when it finally shows up at my doorstep Etc.) If it’s a dress I am buying and paying for with my own money and putting it on my credit card then I don’t think it would occurre to me to give people status updates until it’s time for me to wear the dress in September.

I’m assuming you didn’t ask complete strangers to be your bridesmaids, correct?  You could ask them to stand up at your wedding but you’re incapable of calling them up on the phone for a quick status check and making sure everyone got the dress ok and it wasn’t backordered or anything?  And what do you mean you keep bugging them but still don’t know?  So they don’t respond to you?  Exactly how many times are talking about bugging grown adults who are capable of buying things?

Otherwise, if you want status updates and don’t trust them, then buy their dresses for them.  Simple as that.

Post # 14
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5166 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

In like two seconds? 

Post # 15
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690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

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iloveyou100 :  Could you perhaps find another dress, purchase them yourself and have your bridesmaids pay you back? Might give you some piece of mind.

If your heart is set on that specific dress, it might be worth looking into a dress maker doing it custom for you. I found a dress I wanted for my girls, but the website it was from sis not look reputable to me. Instead, I found a dress maker to re-create it and she is charging the same amount it would cost to buy the dress new plus alterations. There wont be any extra fee’s because they will be cutom made to the girls sizes, which I think is a huge plus. Just an idea!

EDIT: All good? Did they all order them? I hope so!

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