Bridesmaids holding train?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve thought about this too, as my dress is also heavy with a long train. I think it would be sweet, but there were too many logistics that made it too confusing (where would they keep their bouquets, they would be taking their spots after me, etc) that I kind of nixed the idea early on. I’ll have them help me with it most of the way, then I’ll pull the final stretch on my own 🙂 HTH!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

To be completely honest, as a Bridesmaid or Best Man if I were asked to do this, I would not be happy. In My Humble Opinion, it’s taking advantage of your BMs. Also, I may have watched a couple of episodes of Big Fat Gypsy Wedding on YouTube yesterday and the girls on that show had really big trains that needed to be carried down the aisle which was just too much for my taste so I could be imagining something a lot larger than your reality.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I had a train on my dress and my dad straightened it out before we walked, and then my older flower girl’s special job after walking down the aisle was to fix my train when I got to the altar. My Maid/Matron of Honor had her hands full because I gave her my bouquet to hold.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@slicey19: I agree. I would be kind of offended that you want me to spend my walk down the aisle holding up your train. I think you just get your dad or photographer or something to fix your train before you walk. You should be able to walk with your train or else its too big.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

I had a cathedral length train and I asked a family friend, whom also handed out programs and helped “cue” each of us when to walk down the aisle, fix my train before walking down the aisle.  Then, during the ceremony, it was my Maid/Matron of Honor that adjusted it (she handed her bouquet to her daughter who was the Flower Girl and her bouquet to another BM). 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont see why anyone would be offended to hold the brides train as she walks. Whats the big deal? Having said that, it wont make for good photographs. I think you should have someone fix it for you at the very start of the aisle and then just let it drag behind you. Thats the whole beauty of the train. If you dont want it to be draggin on the floor maybe you can bustle it?

I am thinking of having my moh actually walk behind me, because my ceremony site has the entrance on the side rather than the back and I would need to make a left turn to get on to the aisle. I would like her fix it for me once I make that turn and then wait till I’m half way down and walk behind me. I’ve seen this done before and it worked out nicely.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@mrs-v-to-be: I’d like all the BMs to go ahead of me, so my Maid/Matron of Honor would be the only person after me. I’m still undecided though. I do also have usherettes who could help fix my train because I go down the aisle.  Are you having an aisle runner? Maybe you can have you Bridesmaid or Best Man hold the train till you reach the aisle runner and then once you are on the aisle runner you can let the train drag since it wont be touch the ground itself

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Wow… are there really people out there that are so selfish that they would be offended to be asked to carry their friend’s wedding dress train? Why does everything have to be about self in our world today ? Isn’t that what bridesmaids and Maid/Matron of Honor are there to do? Be of whatever help they can be to their good friend?? Maybe the bride made a poor choice in who she thought her friends are if  the thought of “serving” someone you supposedly care about would be offensive! Taking the spotlight off of “your” big moment as Bridesmaid or Best Man by serving the Bride on the most special day of her life -actually,  ironically, spotlights you as an amazing and loving friend instead of a self absorbed prima donna.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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