Post # 1
I seem to be finding conflicting views on this; do I need to pay for my Bridesmaids Hotel Rooms the night before & the night of the wedding? (my wedding is about 2 hours from where any of my bridesmaids live so they will definitely need a room both nights) It’s not completely undoable to fit this in the budget, but I would prefer not to have to inur this extra expense if it is not common practice.
Post # 3
We are not paying for anyone’s rooms. Our destination is about an hour at the most from where most of us live but our bridal party wanted to make a weekend of it. I have been in numerous weddings and have not ever had my room paid for. They may factor that into your gift unfortunately just as a forewarning. If I was able to get some free rooms I might give them to bridal party first though since they are incurring other costs as well.
Post # 4
We are not paying for rooms for our party and they will all (except for one BM) be traveling. If our budget was more, I would love to take care of that for them. However, when we asked if they would like to be in the wedding, we tried to make the expenses as clear as we could. We plan to provide all meals for them over the weekend, and I have budgeted a bit more for them on their gift. But the price of adding at least 4 (thats if they double) hotel rooms to the tab just couldn’t be done for 2 nights 🙁 Any wedding I have participated in, I’ve always had to pay for my own room.
Post # 5
We are not paying for our bridal parties rooms. But I was in a wedding where the rooms were our gift. I suppose its all in how much you are willing to spend and if you wanted to get them other gifts.
I think it is one of those costs that is expected when you accept being in the wedding party.
Post # 6
We are paying for cabins for the whole bridal/groom’s party and their dates. It was definitely expensive, but all but 2 are coming from out of town and already have to buy plane tickets. However, I have never had someone pay my hotel bill as a bridesmaid.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2009 - Rancho Bernardo Inn
I don’t think that is is expected to pay for their hotel rooms. One wedding I was in the bride paid for a suite for all of the bridesmaids the two night before the wedding. It was a nice gesture and certainly not expected. But I think she really wanted to be with all of us and have some extra support that night since she was so nervous.
Post # 8
Actually we are paying for our wedding party to stay in the hotel that is connected to our venue. This is our gift to them for being part of our wedding. We thought it would be more practical then giving them jewelry they would only wear once. I think you should do what you want and not feel obligated to do any thing you don’t want to. Don’t forget they chose to be in the wedding and with doing so comes those types of expenses.
Post # 9
We rented two beach houses for our guests and are paying the shares of our bridal party – and our entire wedding is costing under $7000. While it certainly is not mandatory, we chose to do this because they already are incurring so many other expenses, like airfare, car rental, wedding clothes, food and drink while away for a week, gifts for the wedding and shower, etc., all to do us the favor of standing up in our wedding. If you can afford to do it and you know it would be helpful financially to your wedding party in these tough times, I think it would be a lovely gesture.
Post # 10
We are paying the hotel rooms for my bridesmaids– it is kind of old school etiquette, but my mother insisted upon it.
Post # 11
So glad you posted this, I don’t know what to do either!!
Fiance and I have already reserved (and will be paying for) suites the night before the wedding so all of the bridal party and groomsmen(and groom) can stay together…but we aren’t sure what to do about the night OF the wedding.
Most of my bridesmaids live within an hour of our venue, so I assumed they would just go home, BUT all of the groomsmen are traveling from out of town and most have SOs attending the wedding. I guess I just assumed that they would stay in the room the night of the wedding that their SO stayed in the night before? Is this naive to think?
I think if the wedding party wasn’t all staying together the night before we probably wouldn’t pay for their individual rooms (we have 6 bms and 6 groomsmens). Right now we are only paying for a few suites (not 12 rooms!!).
Post # 12
i don’t think you’re responsible for paying for their rooms, unless you decide to give it to them as a gift. i’m also paying for a room so the girls can stay with me the night before the wedding, but the night of the wedding they will either go home or stay with relatives.