(Closed) Bridesmaids – How to Ask the Awkward Questions

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

You find another dress for her, or let her choose one she will be comfortable in. No one is obligated to lose weight for your wedding, and whether she does or doesn’t is her business.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Have they seen the dresses? It seems you are worried she may not feel comfortable in the type of dress due to her weight gain. I wouldn’t mention anything about weight especially after having a baby. I would just send them all individually a picture of the dress and ask them what they think. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Can’t the dress be ordered in her size? Why won’t she fit in it?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Find a dress that can accommodate all of your bridesmaids’ sizes. Don’t ask her about her weight loss. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Do they not make the dress in her current size? If so, I’d recommend finding a new one– I know the ones you have are perfect,  but I’d consider my friend’s feelings over the style of the dress. See if you can find something similar that does come in her size, and let her go about losing weight at her own pace so that she doesn’t feel embarassed.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Can you buy the dress in a larger size? Does she know you already bought her one? If so I’d leave the ball in her court. Just say ‘let me know if you want me to order you a different dress for the wedding, I don’t want you feeling any undue pressure to fit into the current one – you’ve got enough on your plate already!’.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

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windowlulu:  How is the dress you picked “perfect” if one of your bridesmaids won’t fit into it? Are you seriously contemplating asking your friend what she plans to do so she won’t look like a disco ball in a dress you picked out? Wow.

These are questions you don’t ask. If she wants to lose weight- great! But it should be for herself and you should be nothing but supportive and it would be nice if you could find a bridesmaid dress that flattered all your friends, not just the thinner ones.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Do not ask her about her weight loss.

I don’t understand who she won’t fit into the dress?  Do they not make it in her size?  Or is the style not flattering for her?

I would just tell them to buy a dress in X color, Y lenght and Z fabric.  That way they can each buy a dress that best suits their body type and style.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

Find a dress or a selection of to suit ALL of your bridesmaids, as they are. If your Bridesmaid or Best Man loses weight, great. If she doesn’t she should still be comfortable.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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windowlulu:  This isnt making sense to me. Why wouldnt they make her size? 

Also – why would you choose a dress that a bridesmaid cant fit into? 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Does it truly not FIT or do you mean something else by that?

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

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windowlulu:  So it isn’t about the fact that it doesn’t come in her size, it is more that she doesn’t think it will flatter her at her current size.  Gotcha.

Yeah, then I would just let her choose something else that does make her feel comfortable and beautiful.

It is nice to hear a bride be more concerned about her friends comfort then freaking out over not having the same dress.

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