- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Bridesmaid help needed!
I have my “ideal” 4 girls that I’d like to ask to be my bridesmaids – 3 friends and my cousin (I’m an only child so no sisters) However, I’ve got quite a large group of female friends, most of whom don’t know each other as I’ve lived in different places and gone to different schools/uni/work. I’m very lucky that many of my female friends consider me to be their best friend and I think as a result they’re all expecting me to ask them to be my bridesmaid.
However…I really don’t want *loads* of bridesmaids and if I asked everyone I thought I should I’d have about 10! Plus the cost would just be way too much as I’d like to pay for the bridesmaid dresses myself which would be impossible with that many.
So my question is – what is a nice way to tell someone they’re not your bridesmaid?! I know I could just ask my 3 friends and my cousin and not mention it to the others but I’d really like them to know that they mean the world to me and it’s not a personal snub that I’m not asking them.
Help/advice much appreciated! It’s crazy how much of a social minefield weddings are!! :S
Also I was bridesmaid for one of the girls I’m not going to ask – she’s a childhood friend and we’re close but don’t see each other that often – is it a bit ‘off’ not to include her?
*FINALLY* I’m also going to ask my FI’s sister if her two girls would like to be flower girls (they’re both under 10). My soon to be sister in law is in her mid thirties and married so I kind of assumed she wouldn’t be expecting to be a bridesmaid but as I’m having her two little girls as flower girls, would it make it easier on the day to include her in the bridal party? Her girls won’t know the other bridesmaids and are quite shy and I don’t want them to be upset when their mummy has to leave them before they walk down the aisle!