(Closed) Bridesmaids in a different city than I am, and the dresses..?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it okay to ask maids to buy a dress they can't try on in their city because it's not sold nearby?
    Sure! If it's a flattering style. : (1 votes)
    7 %
    No way! That's a lot of money to spend on a dress they can't be sure they'll like how they look in. : (5 votes)
    33 %
    It's perfectly okay to suggest it to them and see how they feel. : (8 votes)
    53 %
    There's a clever way of dealing with this and I'll tell you in the comments! : (1 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Will the company send out size samples with a deposit?  I have seen that before with some companies, can’t hurt to call and ask them.

    Post # 4
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    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Since you have almost a year to go, will you be back there with them?   I found that even some of the smaller wedding shops still carried the same brands.  

    Post # 5
    Member
    241 posts
    Helper bee

    The dress in the picture looks very clingy so I would personally be ok with it if I could try it on first but not just ordering it. Maybe a store that carries it could ship it as PP suggested.

    Post # 6
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    5984 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    More than half of my BM’s were out of town.  It was important to look for a designer that is common and could be found at a store nearby to them.  I don’t think all of my girls were able to try them on, but they were able to see multiple photos of the other girls in them.  I chose a gown that would be flattering on all of their body types.  Unfortunately, I don’t think the photo above would look good on everyone.  Good Luck!

    Post # 7
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    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think it’s perfectly okay to ask them but make sure you make it clear that you are okay with them saying “no way, I want to try on the dress first.” I think how they feel will depend on your girls’ body types and if they share the same fashion sense as you.

    I’ve been in two weddings so far (will be in my third in 2 weeks) and didn’t get to try on a single one of those dresses.  The 2 I wore so far were hideous but I didn’t really care because I wasn’t planning on rewearing a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress anyway and I always felt that the wedding is about the bride. It wasn’t the end of the world that I didn’t feel like I looked fabulous. Thing is, I think it’s a bit easier for me because I’m small.  

    I don’t know what your girls look like but I agree with melisslp that the dress you posted a pic of doesn’t look like a universally flattering style

    The dress for this month’s wedding will be lovely when it fits (it’s with the tailor). While I didn’t resent the last two brides for putting me in dresses I didn’t like, I certainly adore this bride for choosing something nice and flattering.  She and I also have the same taste in style which helps.

    If there are bridal boutiques in the city that your BMs live, they should have at least some of the same brands so look into that.

    I gave my girls a designer, color, and fabric and told them to get whatever dress they wanted within those parameters. That gave them 6 options. Some tried them on, some didn’t care enough and just picked a style based on what it looked like in the picture.

     

     

    Post # 8
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    3982 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    With the wedding so far away, is there not a chance they will be in the city at some point with you so they can try them on? I would worry about getting dresses like that w/o them having a chance to see them on first. You would be surprised what doesn’t fit a body type like you would think.

    Post # 9
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    4771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Only one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man tried on the dress, but I am buying them.  When I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man I didn’t try mine on either, none of us did we just saw it in a catalog and liked it.  They looked great.

    I am worried about your dress choice though since it appears to be a style that will only look good on a model type body (AKA hanger).  If you add some curves, I don’t think that dress will be flattering at all, sorry.

    Post # 10
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    1833 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    All the time I’ve been a bridesmaid, I’ve been able to try on the dresses, and I really appreciated that. I’ve also traveled to other cities to try on the dress, so maybe give them that option? Or, maybe the girls can try on a similar style by the same designer to see fit. 

    Post # 11
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    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’ve never been able to try on the dress in advance when I’ve been a bridesmaid.  But they’ve also been pretty common shapes. The one above would work if all your ladies are tall and thin, but otherwise I think it would be tough.

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