Post # 1
As I’m sure many of you are, I’m having problems finding a dress all my BMs like. I know it’s my wedding and I should just choose what I want, but it really stresses me out knowing that I’m making my friends buy something they don’t love, so I’m thinking of just saying forget the matching, get whatever black dress you want, just so I’ll stop stressing about it!!
I know lots of weddings have non-matching dresses these days, and for those of you that are doing this, my question is, is it better to have very similar but not matching dresses, or completely different styles? Like should I say get your own dress that is knee length, black, and has straps that are wider than spaghetti straps but no halters (so they’ll practically match)…or would it look better to say, get whatever knee length black dress you’d like, and have some girls in strapless, some in halter…etc.
Has anyone had experience with this?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2018 - Outdoor ceremony, banquet hall reception
My bridesmaids are wearing all different dresses. I only gave them two requirements: knee length and a bright color.
My sister is wearing a strapless pink dress, another girl is wearing a v-neck peach dress, yet another girl is wearing a blue strapless dress and the final girl is wearing a lightish green dress with a v-neck and ruffles. They’re all very different, and they all look super cute together! I’ll be posting pictures after our wedding in a couple weeks.
So it really depends on how much continuity you’d like. My cousin let her bridesmaids pick their own dresses in her New Years Eve wedding last year, and she said they had to be black, strapless and knee length. So the look was much more matchy.
Hope this helps! Good luck!
Post # 4
My girls wore all different dresses. All I wanted was knee or calf length and aqua. They all picked dresses that they were comfortable in and loved. I thought they looked great.
Post # 5
I wasn’t able to figure out how to resize the pic. I can send it privately if you want to see a pic.
Post # 6
I just told my bridesmaids to wear an around knee length black dress. It looked great and they all felt comfortable.
Post # 7
All of my maids wore different style long dresses from Jim Hjelm in moss colored chiffon. Two chose styles with straps, two chose strapless but all four were very different and they all loved their dresses. I think it looked great!
Post # 8
Thanks, everyone! So, it seems like you’re all saying that it works well to just have very general guidelines and let them choose from there. That’s what I was thinking, but couldn’t exactly decide…sounds good! (and like one less decision for me to make–yay!)
Post # 9
I’m having a similar problem, only my husband-to-be and his groomsmen are wearing kilts! I’d like all of my girls to wear the same colour and fabric, but how do I do it without it looking too busy? Or am I just making up the whole “too busy” idea in my head?
It’s it the post entitled: Groomsmen in kilts and Bridemaids in blue – what to do?
Post # 10
My bridesmaids picked out their own dresses. My only request was that it be a dark shade of purple.
Picking out dresses for themselves is good for several reasons:
1. If they’re paying for their own, they can select a dress in a price range they’re comfortable with
2. Cut/Style/Color will be in what flatters each girl best
3. Your BMs will appreciate the freedom to choose – plus it’s one less decision for YOU!
I am planning on getting something consistent for them as a gift: ex) the same shawl, jewelry, etc..
Post # 11
I am going to try to have my 3 BMs pick their own dresses. So far it has been more difficult than I imagined. One is petite, one is skinny (but wears normal sizes), and one is plus sized. There is no way they will all look their best in the same dress. The color will be teal, so there may be variation in the colors, and I’m ok with that.
For those of you that had your girls pick their own style of dresses, did you let them pick their own shoes and accessories too? I’m worried my girls wont stand out from the rest of the guests if I don’t have a cohesive element. What do you think about adding a sash to all the dresses?
Post # 12
I have all 3 BMs wearing evening gown length black stain dresses that aren’t strapless. I told them that I’m planning to put a sash around each of their waist, and am hoping to get 3 shoulder wraps in the same color (it’s a November wedding). I let each of them choose thier own shoe style (in black). I’m thinking about giving them jewelry as gifts but ask that they wear it to the wedding…hopefully I can find the same style in gold and silver!
Post # 13
I told my girls to pick out any dress that has pink flowers. It was good for us because they have different body types so one got strapless and one got thick straps. Plus my sister/MOH isn’t really a fan of my pink flower idea so it was helpful for her to have the freedom of picking her own style dress, and at a low price in case she never ever wants to wear it again. I’m tying it all together with their flowers.
Post # 14
I told my bridesmaids to go over to http://www.dessy.com, narrow the dresses down to the ones in nugeorgette fabric, and they could pick any one they wanted in the color I chose. They’ve all been really happy with this and I shouldn’t have to worry about them clashing since they’re made by the same designer and with the same fabric.
Post # 15
all my bms are wearing different dresses, as long they are the same length and color. I rather they wear something that flattering their body then wear something uncomfortable/makes them look fat. They all in different sizes, some has bigger top and some has bigger bottom. I’m very stress at the beginning b/c i’m worry if the picture will turn out weird, but when I think about it they will all look nice next to me b/c they all have makeup and hair done.
Post # 16
my (two) bridesmaids are wedding different dresses in the same color and length. Forr cohesiveness I am buying them a fascinator to tie their look together.