(Closed) Bridesmaids – is a 4 inch heel too high?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it rude to ask bridesmiads to wear 4 in heels?
    Toooo high! Do you want them to break their necks?!?! : (49 votes)
    92 %
    No, nothing is too high in the name of fashion! : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Other - explain : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    1075 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    OUCH! I’m all for wearing tall heels,but only when I’m going out to party.  I couldn’t stand in them all night.  But if your girls are fine with it, then don’t change it.

    Post # 5
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    1740 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    i think that if they aren used to it they will feel it after 10 min… but is up to them… ask them maybe they can start training in them long before the wedding (using them around the house)

    Post # 6
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    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    It depends on how the girls feel about it, really. If two girls never wear heels, it will be strange for them no matter how high the heel is. Could you ask them to try wearing a four inch heel for half an hour and see how it goes?

    Post # 7
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    454 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I think it’s a bit much as they’re not used to it. I wear heels all the time, well at least I did before I met the ground one fateful night and wound up in a cast the night before thanksgiving. 4in heels aren’t for everyone. For shoe-bees it’s probably not a big deal, for those who aren’t used to heels it’s like walking on mountain peaks

    Post # 8
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    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Asking them to wear heels isn’t the end of the world, but 4 inches…that takes practice. You aren’t just asking them to stand in them, you are asking them to WALK in them in front of lots of people.

    Post # 9
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    1987 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Honestly, If someone asked me to wear 4 inch heels I might have to say no, just because I have issue with short heels, 3 inch would be ideal for me.  And I would be all annoying a fidget during the ceremony (Not on purpose!).

    Hah-On the other end- I know some of my bridesmaids will be upset because I’ll make them wear flats! 

    Post # 10
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    If 2/3 BMs don’t wear heels I am thinking having their first “heel experience” be with 4 inch heels at your wedding would be a disaster. I would worry about them making it down the aisle, much less standing in them for 20 minutes…ouch!

    Post # 11
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I don’t really see the point in having them wear them for 20 minutes…I guess you want them all to be a certain height in pictures? Or are the dresses short and you want them all to have the same shoes on?

    Personally, 4 inch heels are a little too high for me, but I would wear them for 20 minutes if the bride wanted me to. Of course, that also means that your bridesmaids would have to buy shoes that 2 out of 3 of them will never wear again. That doesn’t seem very fair. To be honest, I don’t think anyone will notice their shoes at all, and there are TONS of shoes that have lower heels that are super cute. Check out zappos.com, you can search by heel height.

    Post # 12
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    2641 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think it’s too much.  I usually feel allowing the maids to pick their own shoes is best.  Whether it’s the heel, width, or something else about the shoe, it’s hard to make everyone feel comfortable in the same shoe.  And if they are paying for them, I think it’s worth it to let them feel happy, and be able to wear them again.

    Post # 13
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    689 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    mmm i think it might be too much to ask, esp if they don’t normally wear heels…but then again, it depends if they’re the type to be ok with it…

    Post # 15
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    2634 posts
    Sugar bee

    I personally think it’s somewhat rude to ask them.  Yes, the ceremony will be only 20 minutes, but they will be taking pics too and getting ready, so they’ll be wearing those shoes for a long time!  Esp. if they don’t like heels – I just wouldn’t do it.

    Post # 16
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    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    As someone who doesn’t wear heels often, and when I do they are usually no more than 2.5″  I would be really annoyed if someone asked me to wear 4-inchers for a wedding.  But, I would suck it up and not say anything!  I would just make sure to have some back up shoes to change into as soon as was humanly possible! Smile

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