(Closed) Bridesmaids – is it worth it?

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it worth it to have Bridesmaids?
    Bridesmaids are the best, gotta have 'em! : (37 votes)
    77 %
    Not worth the drama, go it alone : (5 votes)
    10 %
    I have a different opinion and will explain below. : (6 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 17
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    81 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    P.S. Many of us think of bridesmaids in the traditional sense, but if you’re looking for a different, unconventional way to involve the girls in your life, you could try things like letting them all choose their own dresses (like Carrie Bradshaw in the SATC movie – all of her best friends wore what made them feel fabulous!), or having them participate in different ways.  Instead of having them stand next to you at the church, one could give a reading, one could give a toast, and one could sing.  There are a lot of ways to incorporate your friends in your big day without committing them to the bridesmaid role.

    Post # 18
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    50 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I agree with the bees that said choose wisely.  I would advise you to take your time in selecting your wedding party and don’t be concerned about having an even number.  I think having one bridesmaid/maid of honor is more than enough.  Also, don’t rule out close male friends or male family members. 

    Post # 19
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    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    there’s nothing like being surrounded by your best friends. that said, i think labeling one bm vs. another raises all sorts of issues and expectations. how about involving each as appropriate – there are some who will bend over backwards to be part of your day, no matter what their title may/not be. others will want nothing to do with it – not that they’re not happy for you, just that they don’t want to deal with the official duties. keep it flexible.. have them play different roles without calling one a bm or not.

    Post # 20
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    4381 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

    I really am not relying on my bridesmaids much for help. Not because they wouldn’t, but just because I feel weird putting so much work on somebody else.

    Plus, I’m a control freak. :p

    I wouldn’t want to not have them though. I love them, and they’re such a sweet, loving, and fun support net.

    Post # 21
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    47 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I have to admit the thought has ran through my head earlier on when planning. But after having a few rough patches at the begininng, they have been fabulous!! My shower was amazing, and my bachlorette was better than I could have dreamed, and they all worked hard on everything for me. It’s also nice to have people there to help you plan, and de-stress with. As long as they are true friends you will not regret it!

    Post # 22
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    5495 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    In my experience the smaller your party the better (I have 4 all together). Don’t go in with extremely high expectations and pick people you’re really close to who will make you laugh!

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