- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I am having 1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man for our wedding in August. Maid/Matron of Honor lives in the same city as me and the wedding. The other two- one is across the country and will not be able to attend the bachelorette party or bridal shower. The other one is 5 hours away, but will be able to attend both.
Because there is no other Bridesmaid or Best Man in the city to help Maid/Matron of Honor, she seeked helped from a coworker’s wife (T, a mutual friend we both know). T is very into weddings and opinionated when it comes to this kind of stuff. My Maid/Matron of Honor has been making it clear that there is a financial restraint when it comes to my bridal shower (she does not feel comfortable asking the other 2 Bridesmaid or Best Man to contribute b/c she doesn’t really talk to them). I told her it was okay because they are bridesmaids and I’m sure they’ll be okay with paying for some of the expense.
T wants to have it at her house, but I would prefer a public place that is more spacious and free of pets. So my Maid/Matron of Honor is renting out the party room in her condo. I understand that is an additional cost of $100, which i thought was the major cost but she said that the majority of the cost will be from food and decorations. It is a bridal shower at 1PM.. so I was only expecting some home made desserts and drinks… They are also spending money on favors, even though I already told her I have some cute boxes we can use and I bought on sale bath soaps for the boxes.
I feel like T is influencing her and telling her everything she needs to do.. but i’m not expecting anything fancy. Now my Maid/Matron of Honor is struggling with the expenses. My mom is willing to help with the cost, but when I asked Maid/Matron of Honor how much she needed she didn’t give me a straight answer. What is a reasonable amount for my mom to contribute?
I feel like there are money saving solutions.. but she wants to do something else (probably suggested by T). But at the same time she is concerned about the cost. I dont’ really know how to deal with this. Any advice?
Also, we were originally going to have a bachelorette party in NYC (which would be an additional $40 for bus ticket and hotel split among the girls) but because of budget restraints.. we’ll be having it at our hometown.
It feels like she’s doing most of the planning with T and I don’t seem to have any input in all this.